Dear Cheryl,

The rage I reacted with was saying something like “ How dare you behave so insolently after all the patience we had with you and all the times we had to help you or when we gave up our lives to be with you???”

We are off the LU track, but until this issue of abuse has some resolution ...

Dear Cheryl,

Who is the I who is a person?
The “I” which I refer to is this body-mind, I do not refero to an abstract entity. In this sense there is no “I” but there is this body and this mind and this behavior.

Who says what a bad person is?
In this case it is my judgement, and surely it ...

Hi dear Cheryl.
Yesterday I did the thoughts exercise and I have to say that your guesses are quite accurate ;)
I am a bad person because I lost my patience,
I am a bad person because I wasn’t loving enough
I am a bad person because sisters has to take care of brothers in need
I am a bad person ...

There wasn’t any conversation. He didn’t call me for the first time in 17 years.
I feel so much pain, I spent all yesterday morning crying and then I was exhausted for the rest of my day.
This morning I still feel bad, I am scared of having been a bad person. I see that this feeling of guilt doesn’t ...

Dear Cheryl,

I don't know how you manage to find the right words...I took courage today by repeating this oxygen mask thing to myself.
It's true that if I don't think about being well myself first, I can't help anyone and in fact I become a problem.
So far, I have always been concerned about ...

Yes, it’s domestic violence, now I see it.
I decided to go to therapy with a psychologist to get out of it. I realized it when you wrote me if I am traumatized.
Today I was walking in the mountains, beautiful places, yet I had a series of thoughts about him so much that at one point I burst into ...

No, my daughters are not traumatized by him. They say that he obviously doesn't realize how he behaves and so you don't have to give him any importance.
I, on the other hand, remain worse and worse, perhaps because I have been subjected to these behaviors of his all my life but I cannot be impassive ...

Hi dear Cheryl.

Who is this Lucia who has to face problems?
This body-mind is Lucia, or “I” or “me” with its characteristic personality.
This body mind, not another one. This one born in 1973, from that parents, the mother of two, the wife of that husband and the sister of that brother. Anyone ...

Dear Cheryl,

No worries at all.summer is so short..

Is there an "I" who solves problems?
Who is in control?
There is Lucia that has to face problems. And she’s not in control, doesn’t know what will happen and so she’s afraid, ‘cause she had to face really lots of problems and she’s exhausted ...

Dear Cheryl,

This period is full, completely full of problems to face and I am exhausted.
What is here if there’s no problem to solve?

It would be a profound peace, a beautiful ocean of calmness and stillness.

What is here if there’s no thought?
Even if there is no thought there are ...

Hi dear Cheryl,

I’d love to become a pointer but I am not yet there, I heaven’t crossed the gate.
I have understood the logic behind, but I am not totally convinced. My search for what is this “I am” is not finished.

Love,
Lucia

Dear Cheryl,

How’s life these days?
Is there still seeking?
Is there anything else that you want to explore together specifically?

Life is still the same, nothing have changed. The anxiety is still there.
I suppose that I need some time to accept that there is no self.
In this moment there isn ...

Dear Cheryl,

Might you say that Life is seeing, hearing, touching, tasting, smelling, thinking?
and it's all happening without a me?
How does that feel?

There is no Self/I/Me..but something should be. This body is alive and I can say that what keeps it alive is the same thing that is seeing ...

Hi Cheryl,
I tried to change the email address but I made something wrong and I had some problems to find the new post.
Anyway here I am.
Who says there's a Self?
Maybe you can't succeed because it isn't there?
Interesting question….in fact I’ve just read or listen to some spiritual teacher about ...

Dear Cheryl,

I took my time to answer these questions but I can’t see no separation, no borders, no inside/ outside.
I keep seeing the inside of this body as the place where my consciousness is located, I see the nature outside of this body, I am not merging with the others, I see them separate ...