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Re: Going beyond the story of me

Postby Bluejay » Fri Jun 30, 2023 9:29 am

Hi Michael,
No. …. It seems that “Apple” is a word/label which refers to a bundle of sensations but not the sensations themselves.
Okay good. It sounds like you used a real apple and not the apple on the screen, is that correct?

In either case, when you look at an apple, what is seen?

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Re: Going beyond the story of me

Postby MichaelHen » Fri Jun 30, 2023 10:43 am

In either case, when you look at an apple, what is seen?
Yes, I am using a real apple.

Red, yellow and brown colors (the apple is on a brown table)

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Re: Going beyond the story of me

Postby Bluejay » Fri Jun 30, 2023 11:15 am

Okay. Thank you, Michael.
Yes, I am using a real apple.

Red, yellow and brown colors (the apple is on a brown table)
Is red, yellow and brown direct experience?

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Re: Going beyond the story of me

Postby MichaelHen » Fri Jun 30, 2023 11:20 am

Is red, yellow and brown direct experience?
Upon reflection, the colors require reference to memory for labelling ... so direct experience is "seeing".

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Re: Going beyond the story of me

Postby Bluejay » Fri Jun 30, 2023 11:22 am

Upon reflection, the colors require reference to memory for labelling ... so direct experience is "seeing".
Yes, like in the labeling exercise, all that is seen is image/colors.

Okay, here's the next one to play with for the next day. Really sit with each question and watch.

Observing Thoughts

Sit quietly for about 30 minutes and notice the arising thoughts. Just let them appear.

You can also do this throughout the day.

Try your best to completely ignore what thoughts are saying and just notice how they appear without you doing anything at all.

Where are they coming from and going to?

Did you do anything to make a particular thought or thoughts appear?

Could you have done anything to make a different thought appear at that exact moment instead?

Can you predict the next thought?

Can you select from a range of thoughts to only have pleasant thoughts?

Do you control where attention goes?

Can you choose not to have painful, negative or fearful thoughts?

Can you pick and choose any kind of thought?

Is it possible to prevent a thought from appearing?

It may seem like thoughts are ordered logically, but look carefully. Is there an organized sequence? Or is it just another thought that says 'these thoughts are in sequence' or 'they take content from previous thoughts' or 'one thought follows another thought'?


Let me know what you find :)

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Re: Going beyond the story of me

Postby MichaelHen » Sat Jul 01, 2023 10:29 am

Hi Henri - I have taken some time to get back to you for two reasons ... I have been on a nine hour road trip (I was driving) and, secondly,I have found the assignment both challenging and interesting and still feel fra from sure about my answers. However...
Where are they coming from and going to?
Don't know ... seem to coming from nowhere and disappearing to nowhere ... like water vapor condensing and evaporating ..
Did you do anything to make a particular thought or thoughts appear?
No. But sometimes it seems like a thought comes due to an earlier decision to focus on some particular task ... i.e. a payment to be made later, and a "reminding" thought appearing sometime later. However, when that thought came, it was not preceded by an intention to remember but came out of nowhere.
Could you have done anything to make a different thought appear at that exact moment instead?
No.
Can you predict the next thought?
No.Though sometimes when I'm engaged in a task, it seems like a sequence of thoughts appear to facilitate the completion of the task ... however, I am beginning to see that this sense of continuity may just be another thought coming out of nowhere although this seems rather counter intuitive ..
Can you select from a range of thoughts to only have pleasant thoughts?
No.
Do you control where attention goes?
As per my observation above, it feels like I can to an extend to complete a task, study a subject etc., but I'm beginning to see that this might just be another new thought ... but the implications are hard to fathom!
Can you choose not to have painful, negative or fearful thoughts?
No. Unfortunately...
Can you pick and choose any kind of thought?
No.
Is it possible to prevent a thought from appearing?
No.
It may seem like thoughts are ordered logically, but look carefully. Is there an organized sequence? Or is it just another thought that says 'these thoughts are in sequence' or 'they take content from previous thoughts' or 'one thought follows another thought'?
I am beginning to see this as a real possibility which obviously would turn everything upside down and be completely contrary to my normal way of experiencing things and my own role .... the possibility is indeed interesting and intriguing, not to say mind blowing!! But more time is needed to observe further and put the pieces together.

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Re: Going beyond the story of me

Postby Bluejay » Sat Jul 01, 2023 10:40 am

I have taken some time to get back to you for two reasons ... I have been on a nine hour road trip (I was driving) and, secondly,I have found the assignment both challenging and interesting and still feel fra from sure about my answers. However...
No problem. Answer as best as you can and we can explore if something is unclear.
No. But sometimes it seems like a thought comes due to an earlier decision to focus on some particular task ... i.e. a payment to be made later, and a "reminding" thought appearing sometime later. However, when that thought came, it was not preceded by an intention to remember but came out of nowhere.
Ok, good. Whenever something seems to come from something else, you can explore:

Is there a connection between the two thoughts referred to, or is it only a thought saying there's a causal link?
Go to the seemingly causal thought (earlier decision) and look at where that thought came from?

You're looking for the original decision point where you made a thought appear.
No.Though sometimes when I'm engaged in a task, it seems like a sequence of thoughts appear to facilitate the completion of the task ... however, I am beginning to see that this sense of continuity may just be another thought coming out of nowhere although this seems rather counter intuitive ..
Nice exploration here.
As per my observation above, it feels like I can to an extend to complete a task, study a subject etc., but I'm beginning to see that this might just be another new thought ... but the implications are hard to fathom!
Yes. We will explore this in the exercise below.
I am beginning to see this as a real possibility which obviously would turn everything upside down and be completely contrary to my normal way of experiencing things and my own role .... the possibility is indeed interesting and intriguing, not to say mind blowing!! But more time is needed to observe further and put the pieces together.
Rest with it and watch in direct experience as you go about your day.

And here's the exercise:

Palm Flipping Exercise

1. Hold a hand in front of you; palm turned down.

2. Now turn the palm up. And down...and up and so on.

Watch like a hawk.

Don't go to thoughts – examine your direct experience. Do this as many times as you like, and each time inquire:

- How is the movement controlled?

- Does a thought control it?

- Can a ‘controller’ of any description be located?

- How is the decision made to turn the hand over? Track any decision point when a thought MADE THE DECISION to turn the hand over and the hand turns over immediately.

- Who or what​ ​chose which hand - the left or right hand for the exercise?

- Can you find a separate individual or anything that is choosing when to turn the palm up or down?


Enjoy! :)

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Re: Going beyond the story of me

Postby MichaelHen » Sun Jul 02, 2023 3:24 am

- How is the movement controlled?
This seems quite strange and subtle ... I cannot find a directly controlling thought but note thoughts/questions about the phenomenon and how the flipping takes place. But the mystery remains, if I don't do it by thinking then how does it happen? Is there a subconscious level of thinking that I am unaware of? Or is the thinking so swift that it cannot be detected?
- Does a thought control it?
Doesn't seem to ... but then how does it happen?
- Can a ‘controller’ of any description be located?
No ... but since the movement happens due to your suggestion, accepted by me, there would seem to have to be a linking/controlling mechanism. If the suggestion hadn't been made, there wouldn't have been any movement.
- How is the decision made to turn the hand over? Track any decision point when a thought MADE THE DECISION to turn the hand over and the hand turns over immediately.
I cannot find it. Could it be subconscious?
- Who or what​ ​chose which hand - the left or right hand for the exercise?
Don't know ... seemed random.
- Can you find a separate individual or anything that is choosing when to turn the palm up or down?
No .. but my common sense tells me there has to be one. Perhaps another explanation could be that the turning movement is performed by an infinitely complex set of factors (my physiology, brain, your suggestion, my breakfast this morning providing adequate energy, the chance happening of my ending up on the LU website etc.....). I had a bit the same experience yesterday when you suggested tracing a seeming train of thoughts back to the "origin" ... upon attempting that it became clear that there was no origin but rather an ungraspably complex set of factors ... sorry if this is becoming too speculative ...

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Re: Going beyond the story of me

Postby Bluejay » Sun Jul 02, 2023 7:31 am

But the mystery remains, if I don't do it by thinking then how does it happen? Is there a subconscious level of thinking that I am unaware of? Or is the thinking so swift that it cannot be detected?
Does it matter? Are 'you' in control of it? That is the question :)
Doesn't seem to ... but then how does it happen?
Instead of going into thinking with this question, which doesn't provide answers (unless you already have them), look in direct experience.

Is there an impulse that happens in the body and the body moves, and sometimes a thought tries to claim it did that?

And does the body seem to move by itself even without thought?

Is it possible that 'life' happens by itself?

No .. but my common sense tells me there has to be one. Perhaps another explanation could be that the turning movement is performed by an infinitely complex set of factors (my physiology, brain, your suggestion, my breakfast this morning providing adequate energy, the chance happening of my ending up on the LU website etc.....). I had a bit the same experience yesterday when you suggested tracing a seeming train of thoughts back to the "origin" ... upon attempting that it became clear that there was no origin but rather an ungraspably complex set of factors ... sorry if this is becoming too speculative ...
It's speculative, but it's also good that you share what's going on. And if you can notice that this is a lot of thinking, that's even better.

So all these factors (physiology, brain, my suggestion, breakfast), what are they in direct experience?
How are they experienced?
Are they anything other than thought doing thought things?
Can you find 'physiology' in direct experience controlling everything?

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Re: Going beyond the story of me

Postby MichaelHen » Sun Jul 02, 2023 12:03 pm

Does it matter? Are 'you' in control of it?
You are right ... I have to conclude that I am not in control of the movement, at least not in any way I can identify. I have gone back over our exchange and can see how hard I find it to stay with direct observation only.
Is there an impulse that happens in the body and the body moves, and sometimes a thought tries to claim it did that?
I am not even aware of an impulse, the movement seems to simply happen ... but it is true that the thought tries to take responsibility, explain etc. It seems though that a thought can arise and stop the movement from happening.
And does the body seem to move by itself even without thought?
Yes ... when I observe the body and its movements (getting up, scratching an itch, walking etc.) it mostly seems to happen automatically.
Is it possible that 'life' happens by itself?
Yes, this does seem like a real possibility. I often feel, when looking back on events in my life, that they simply happened rather than being the results of carefully planned decisions ... the hand turning could indeed be an example of this. Having said this, it is still very puzzling ...
So all these factors (physiology, brain, my suggestion, breakfast), what are they in direct experience?
How are they experienced?
Are they anything other than thought doing thought things?
Can you find 'physiology' in direct experience controlling everything?
No, I can now see quite clearly that it is just thinking ... in the same way that understanding light waves, eye lens, retina and brain, does not in any way capture the direct experience of seeing - though these thoughts can be useful to address health problems and issues.

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Re: Going beyond the story of me

Postby Bluejay » Sun Jul 02, 2023 1:00 pm

I am not even aware of an impulse, the movement seems to simply happen ... but it is true that the thought tries to take responsibility, explain etc. It seems though that a thought can arise and stop the movement from happening.
Are you aware of sensations in the hand before it turns/stops?

If yes, pay attention to if these sensations/impulses come before the thought saying it is controlling something.
Having said this, it is still very puzzling ...
It's quite wonderful :)
though these thoughts can be useful to address health problems and issues.
Absolutely, thought is useful in everyday life, just not in this inquiry.

Okay, now let's explore control and decisions more:

Drink Exercise

The aim of the following exercise is to discover whether the function of choice can really be found or confirmed in actual experience. The idea of making ‘choices‘ is a very clear example of a function that we wrongly identify as the basis of our identity.

Here's what’s needed - a chair, a table and two different drinks. Any two drinks you like are okay for this: coffee, tea, milk, water, juices, smoothies, beer, wine, etc.

Preparation - Place the two drinks side by side on the table in front of you, sit comfortably on the chair and mentally label them as drink A and drink B.

Experiment - Finding the function of choice

Sit for a few moments, take a few relaxed breaths and let the dust settle. When you feel ready:

1. Look at drink A and at drink B. Think about their respective qualities, the things you like about them, compare and weigh the pros and cons of each. See if a preference is manifesting for one or the other.

2. Count to 5.

3. Choose one of the drinks. Pick it up and take a sip.

Questions:

Remember that we’re looking for some kind of function, a something, an ‘I’ which is doing the ‘choosing’.

In step 1 when thinking about their respective qualities, did you ‘choose’ the qualities? Or did they kind of appear by themselves? If some preferences manifested, did you ‘choose’ these preferences? Or did they just pop up by themselves?

In step 2 when you counted to 5, if the preferences took the back seat while the numbers took the front seat, did you ‘choose’ this sequence of event? Did you ‘choose’ to shut down the preferences to give way to the counting?

Did you directly experience a mental function or faculty doing the ‘choosing’? Have you seen this function in action?

In step 3 where you made a choice, did you actually witness or directly experience a mental function or faculty doing the ‘choosing’? Did anything arise that announced, ‘I am the chooser’? If so, what does this function look like?

Sometimes we describe this sense of choosing as a ‘feeling’: It feels like ‘I’ did the 'choosing’. But the question is, can a feeling ‘choose’? Is it in the nature of a feeling to 'choose’?


Enjoy! :)

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Re: Going beyond the story of me

Postby MichaelHen » Mon Jul 03, 2023 3:22 am

Are you aware of sensations in the hand before it turns/stops?
I have repeated the experiment several times and still cannot really identify any sensations prior to the turning, except perhaps for a slight tingling buzz which may be due to the fact that there is attention on the hand. Perhaps I sense a slight "stillness" or "stop" in the mind/hand prior to the turning. I am grasping here.
In step 1 when thin
king about their respective qualities, did you ‘choose’ the qualities? Or did they kind of appear by themselves? If some preferences manifested, did you ‘choose’ these preferences? Or did they just pop up by themselves?
They seemed to pop up by themselves although some seemed to be sparked by the visual inputs from looking at the drinks i.e. the clarity and purity of the glass of water, as opposed to the muddiness of the coffee.
In step 2 when you counted to 5, if the preferences took the back seat while the numbers took the front seat, did you ‘choose’ this sequence of event? Did you ‘choose’ to shut down the preferences to give way to the counting?
No, no conscious choice was made but the fact of engaging/focusing on the counting made them recede to the background, in fact largely disappear. Attention went elsewhere.
Did you directly experience a mental function or faculty doing the ‘choosing’? Have you seen this function in action?
No ... but I was aware of a thought wondering what I would chose and wondering if I had already made a decision.
In step 3 where you made a choice, did you actually witness or directly experience a mental function or faculty doing the ‘choosing’? Did anything arise that announced, ‘I am the chooser’? If so, what does this function look like?
Apart from the thinking mentioned above, I was not aware of any deciding entity.
Sometimes we describe this sense of choosing as a ‘feeling’: It feels like ‘I’ did the 'choosing’. But the question is, can a feeling ‘choose’? Is it in the nature of a feeling to 'choose’?
The feeling of chasing is there, but I sense that it is more a result of habitual thinking rather than being able to point to anything directly experienced that does the chosing.

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Re: Going beyond the story of me

Postby Bluejay » Mon Jul 03, 2023 7:58 am

I have repeated the experiment several times and still cannot really identify any sensations prior to the turning, except perhaps for a slight tingling buzz which may be due to the fact that there is attention on the hand. Perhaps I sense a slight "stillness" or "stop" in the mind/hand prior to the turning. I am grasping here.
Okay, good looking :)
The feeling of chasing is there, but I sense that it is more a result of habitual thinking rather than being able to point to anything directly experienced that does the chosing.
Yes, the feeling of choosing is there, and the thinking assumes a chooser.
No ... but I was aware of a thought wondering what I would chose and wondering if I had already made a decision.
Even this thought... Did you create this thought, or did it just arise?

Now let's look at "I":

Explore ‘Sense of Self'

Let’s say that you have lost your keys and you swear that you left them in your coat. You go to look and check all the pockets - the keys are not there.

You swear they must be as that was the last place you remember them. You have a vivid memory of putting them there after you left the house. But when you check they are not there. At this point you can keep believing that the keys are in your pocket, or you can admit you were mistaken.

This is just like that. You may see clearly that the self is an illusion but still feel a sense of self - just like the keys. But feeling something to be true and seeing that it is or is not is different. This is why we may find ourselves coming back to your expectations at the start and at the end.

Now, I’d like to ask you to explore this sense of self very-very thoroughly. Not by thinking about it, but by feeling it. Keep the focus of attention on the sense of self and inquire:

Does the sense of self have a location?

Does the sense of self have a shape or a size?

Does the sense of self say or communicate anything?

If the answer is yes, how does the sense do this exactly?

Does the sense of self have any characteristics or attributes?

What is the sense of self ‘made of’? An image? Sound? Taste? Smell? Sensation? Thought?

What is known for sure? Does the thought 'self' contain something real?

What is the sense of self referring to?


Enjoy and let me know what is found :)

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Re: Going beyond the story of me

Postby MichaelHen » Mon Jul 03, 2023 9:18 am

Did you create this thought, or did it just arise?
No, it just arose on its own. But thinking tells me it arose in the wider context of an experiment to explore choosing ... but I now see more clearly that this is just a thought.
Does the sense of self have a location? Does the sense of self have a shape or a size?
There seems to be a sense of self in the body, particularly the head and chest areas ... but the more I put attention on it, the more it dissipates and disappears and is replaced by an undefined spaciousness. But there is also a sense that the body is "my" body but this is not directly related to the direct experience of self.
Does the sense of self say or communicate anything? If the answer is yes, how does the sense do this exactly?
There is a fairly constant stream of opinions, ideas and concepts arising in the form of thoughts. My normal sese is that thoughts are "me" thinking and that this is how the self communicates.
Does the sense of self have any characteristics or attributes?
No ... as stated above, the more attention is given to it, the more it evaporates into thin air ..
What is the sense of self ‘made of’? An image? Sound? Taste? Smell? Sensation? Thought?
It seems increasingly clear that the sense of self is very closely linked to thinking, perhaps even to be thinking, in particular the content or subject of the thought stream which is "my" thoughts, ideas, history, memories, opinions etc.
What is known for sure? Does the thought 'self' contain something real?
I can't find anything when I look.
What is the sense of self referring to?
Memories, ideas, opinions arising in the form of thought including the idea of my body which only "I" can feel from the inside.

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Re: Going beyond the story of me

Postby Bluejay » Mon Jul 03, 2023 9:48 am

No, it just arose on its own. But thinking tells me it arose in the wider context of an experiment to explore choosing ... but I now see more clearly that this is just a thought.
OK, excellent.
There seems to be a sense of self in the body, particularly the head and chest areas ... but the more I put attention on it, the more it dissipates and disappears and is replaced by an undefined spaciousness. But there is also a sense that the body is "my" body but this is not directly related to the direct experience of self.
What is the experience of 'my'?

What is 'my' referring to? Something real?

Are 'you' in the body, or is the 'body' an internal representation? (this is easier with eyes closed)

There is a fairly constant stream of opinions, ideas and concepts arising in the form of thoughts. My normal sese is that thoughts are "me" thinking and that this is how the self communicates.
You already saw that you don't control thoughts, so who or what is thinking?

And based on the above, where is the self in all that?

It seems increasingly clear that the sense of self is very closely linked to thinking, perhaps even to be thinking, in particular the content or subject of the thought stream which is "my" thoughts, ideas, history, memories, opinions etc.
Does the self exist outside of thinking?

What does 'my' mean in this context if thoughts and decisions are simply arising?


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