Dear Marcin,
Again I didn't have enough time to finish writing an answer to you in the recent days.
At the beginning some things seemed too unclear, and then life piled up many urgent things to do.
Below is what I managed to put together till now:
Thank your very much for this long and honest reply.
If things are unclear please mention them so we can deal with ( :
So we try now:
Yes, there is.
"I" identify with experience, with thoughts, with the "I" story.
Ok. Now you know and are certain about it.
We’re going to have a look at that, if you like.
"I" has no owner.
It's just there.
It seems to be a composite thing, even self-contradictory at moments,
but nevertheless part of this perceived reality.
So it seems there are two “Me” – personalities.
Somehow we’re getting lost in words and language here.
There is a ‘ME’ which acts according to conditioning, let’s call it the separate self.
It exists through the story that gets repeated in the mind and also in the mind of others.
This self is all about story: “I’m born on this and this date in this and this place,
this was my childhood and it was so and so and than this and that had happened.
This was very bad, this was very good, I like this, I don’t like that.
This is nice, this is ugly.
I’m such and such tall and my body is such and such, etc etc.”
What we are trying to find out is whether all this convictions are true?
What remains when all these assurances aren’t there anymore?
Will you die then? Who is that ‘you’?
Who is the one who has a dream, or a nightmare during sleep?
Where or who is the actor in the dream? It appears all to be so very real.
But then, waking up, the actor is totally gone.
Did ‘you’ die by waking up? Obviously not. It was not a big deal at all.
The dream was just an acting out of the mind with another body –
while the person called Marcin was in deep sleep.
As long the feeling of “Me” is good, all is well. No need to change or do anything about.
But when the feeling turns into a bad one, you are compelled to find your way out.
You don’t want to stay with it and the reflex is to try to stop it or create some distraction;
speak out to somebody, have some chocolate, run, scream, or whatever.
However these ‘bad’ feelings are just an expression of change. It is like a swing:
The swing goes forward; very pleasant feelings. Then it turns backwards; very unpleasant feelings.
Basically it is just the same process.
But one likes to cling to the pleasant ones and tries to avoid the unpleasant ones.
If one is able to look really closely and without any bias it becomes so clear:
There is only the one who perceives and the perceiver is the same as perception.
This perceiver is referred as ‘you’, but at the same time it is clear that this ‘you’ is not a separate entity.
It is just beside the whole scene. It is always there.
It is in no way hidden. At the same time it can also be said that the ‘you’ doesn’t exist.
It cannot be seen by thought or the mind as all these factors are also due to change.
They are also caught in the swing-state.
I It seems twisted somehow, as if it was a kind of a vortex - some thoughts seem to float freely, but those that form "I" are twisted and seem to move constantly. Or maybe they are just linked together. I don't know how to separate them, how to see them clearly as thoughts.
Thoughts are just thoughts are just thoughts…
They don’t have an intrinsic life or quality.
You don’t need to do anything with thoughts and you would also not be able to do so.
All that can be done is just to realize: Ah, thoughts. Ok.
Can an inherent thinker be found?
Would anything that would suggest to be the thinker be anything other than a concept or an idea?
Moreover, what has been seen in the last days is that perception is similar to augmented reality –
basically all sensory input is incessantly interpreted and labelled and fit into some mind's scheme.
When there is some prevalent mood or a thought tendency, mind seems to go so far as to try to bend the sensory perception to fit it into what it wants to be true. When there is unhappy mood, nothing seems to work, when there is some mental pursuit, for example to try to see the truth of "no self", mind tries to bend itself to show the reality without the self, by hiding it, denying it, labelling it as unreal, etc.
But as you say, it is not a riddle to be solved by mind, so it feels frustrated again and again.
Yes, it cannot be pursued intentionally. As the mind is part of the whole story,
it can never be a satisfying tool for realisation. But what you describe is already a great realisation.
You see how the mind works and how it by all means tries to prove authorship.
This is a great realisation indeed!
Logically, it should not be so, but it seems quite real. This "augmented reality" is quite compelling here.
Like the scent of the fake Christmas tree - it was undinstiguishable from the AE at first.
Yes, the stories of the mind are very convincing. And by all means it will try to stick to the grip on you.
Once you see that all these thoughts are just stories without any inner truth or value you won’t be compelled
to believe all these stories.
You might know the example with Santa Claus.
Do you believe in him? Did you ever?
Or any other figure; Batman or anything like that.
You know it is just a story and as story itself has some value.
But nothing more. It’s nothing to get bothered or exited about.
Well, there is a strong feeling that this word somehow expresses "me".
And there are emotions arising about it. Now "I" really like "me", "I" want to keep it –
this feeling of "me" feels good now, after you encouraged me to embrace it.
Yes, keep it. Once you are 100% sure about the difference between the story and perception
all false things will fall away naturally. You are there; but the story is just a story.
So it is totally OK to feel good about it.
There is a feeling like a big tender and warm bubble growing when "I" is pronounced.
And now it shows how susceptible is the mind to any suggestions: after you suggested that "I"
should be embraced, it has become warm and nice to feel this "I".
Yes, that’s OK. Just be aware what this “I” really is. Whether it’s just a fancy story
or a profound deep and lasting truth?
No, they aren't. They are just sensations and thoughts. I can see them as separate from "me". “
So a mere story without any deeper meaning.
Please try to add a little meditation practice to your daily routine.
Five minutes before getting out of bed and five minutes before falling asleep would suffice.
Even two minutes will do.
You may do it while lying down however the sitting position would be even better.
See what works best for you.
So here it comes:
Just give all your attention to the breath.
Natural breath, as it comes in and as it goes out just naturally.
You might also be aware of the belly expanding and constricting with each breath.
When there are thoughts just let them be there like the chirping of birds outside.
They are there but don’t listen to them intentionally.
Just be with the breath as it comes in naturally and passes out.
It does that all the time mostly unintentionally.
Now you are there just to witness the whole process;
breathing in – breathing out.
Coming – going. In – out.
If you might get caught in a thought just see how quickly you come back to natural breathing.
You might simply note: Ah, just thought. Then again: In breath – out breath…
You might try this also during the day with open eyes; waiting somewhere, having a little break, on the toilet…
Please let me know how you go.
All the best
nina
Now. Here. That.