Requesting Xian or Ilona

[Xain]

Great replies there, Alexander - Thank you.
Here are the last three questions.

4) Was there something you looked into or something I may have mentioned that made you fully realise - Was there a moment where you 'tipped over' into realising 'no self'?

5) Describe decision, intention, free will, choice and control as you understand it now. What makes things happen? How does it work? What are you responsible for? Please give examples from experience if you can.

6) Do you have anything further you would like to add?

Xain ♥

[Alexander]

4) Was there something you looked into or something I may have mentioned that made you fully realise - Was there a moment where you 'tipped over' into realising 'no self'?

It was more of a "sinking into" than a specific moment.

5) Describe decision, intention, free will, choice and control as you understand it now. What makes things happen? How does it work? What are you responsible for? Please give examples from experience if you can.

Decision, intention, free will, choice and control are concepts that arise out of the false idea that there is a separate self who is able to exert these things. In actuality, there is no separate entity. All is simply happening. There is no separate agent "making" it happen. There is just the movement of life; nature mysteriously unfolding. There is no "responsibility". Agreements will be met/unmet, actions taken, responses given to situations, all naturally arising without an "I" who is responsible for them.

On the level of circumstance, there are many unknowns. There's an impulse to leave the work I've been doing which means potentially heading home overseas and leaving my current partner. There's no sense of what I would do next, but there's an ease, a contentment, a relaxation in knowing life will unfold as it will; that conversations will happen, plane tickets may be booked, and there's no "I" responsible for or who can "make the right decision" or "control" the outcome. Story, fearful thoughts or commentary arise and they are seen as just arising, part of the unfolding but there's no agency in them. It feels light and free and there's a joy in the mystery.

A few days ago there was a sense of depression. It was just arising. It was seen it didn't "belong" to an "I", there was no "self" who created it and there was no sense of needing to "fix" it. It passed a few hours later. It affirmed the ease, spontaneity and naturalness of life life-ing. What is seen, what is heard, what is felt, all just arising in current experience without an "owner" or a "doer". In the past there would've been a judgement that "it shouldn't be there" and an attempt to "shift" it; a sense of ownership that "I made it shift" or that "I can't shift it". But all of this is commentary and labelling on what is already happening- what is just arising and what equally just dissipates.

6) Do you have anything further you would like to add?

I'd like to express my deep appreciation to you Xain for your dedication and precise, clear guidance. And deep thanks to the entire Liberation Unleashed team. It is such an incredible service.

[Xain]

Hi once more Alexander

Thank you very much for your kind words - It's very much appreciated.
The other guides are confident that you've 'gone through the gate', which means this guidance is at an end.

Thank you for sticking with the process and for an enjoyable conversation.
There are many more things to examine depending on your own particular desires - 'Others' (other people), desire and aversion (suffering), the objective world, time, space, experiential shifts and realisations etc
If you are a member of Facebook and would like to be added to our further groups, including 'aftercare', 'new arrivals' and 'further looking' please let me know your Facebook name and/or page link, and I'll get you added.

If you ever feel 'stuck' with something, feel free to send me a private message and I'll try to assist you as best as I can.

Best best wishes to you for the future
Xain ♥

[Alexander]

Thanks so much again Xain, I'd love to be added to the Facebook groups. I'll PM you my details.

And I really appreciate the offer of being available if I'm "stuck". Thank you.

Best wishes to you.

With love and appreciation,

Alexander.