Is there still a subtle seeking, a quiet expectation that something should be different?
Even the impulse to “let go” carries within it the assumption that something needs to be done. But what if absolutely nothing needed to happen? Right now, as you sit and read this, is anything truly incomplete ...
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- Sat Apr 12, 2025 12:18 am
- Forum: THE GATE
- Topic: Breaking the first fetter
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- Sun Mar 02, 2025 9:25 pm
- Forum: THE GATE
- Topic: Breaking the first fetter
- Replies: 36
- Views: 1871
Re: Breaking the first fetter
Hello Elad,
I have been doing the inquiry that you’ve suggested such as doubt, thought about self, and self esteem when there’s a praise, recognition, criticism, and dismissal. Oh boy, how to put them in words to make sense of it. I’ll try my best.
There has been sense of hurt, anger, and a will ...
I have been doing the inquiry that you’ve suggested such as doubt, thought about self, and self esteem when there’s a praise, recognition, criticism, and dismissal. Oh boy, how to put them in words to make sense of it. I’ll try my best.
There has been sense of hurt, anger, and a will ...
- Mon Feb 17, 2025 8:37 pm
- Forum: THE GATE
- Topic: Breaking the first fetter
- Replies: 36
- Views: 1871
Re: Breaking the first fetter
Hi Elad,
Thank you for your response and patience in my slow process!
Even "it feels like all the thoughts about me and what I am referring to just one moment"... How exactly are they reffering to a moment? Aren't they just thought being believed causing sensations, referring nothing palpable ...
Thank you for your response and patience in my slow process!
Even "it feels like all the thoughts about me and what I am referring to just one moment"... How exactly are they reffering to a moment? Aren't they just thought being believed causing sensations, referring nothing palpable ...
- Tue Feb 04, 2025 8:12 pm
- Forum: THE GATE
- Topic: Breaking the first fetter
- Replies: 36
- Views: 1871
Re: Breaking the first fetter
Hi Elad,
Thank you for responding to the “boundary setting skill belief.” You’re right about my learned defense mechanism either “to please or to disappear” is indeed a shadow work that was rooted in my childhood upbringing. The little kid Yuri was always so afraid to cause violent anger, shouting ...
Thank you for responding to the “boundary setting skill belief.” You’re right about my learned defense mechanism either “to please or to disappear” is indeed a shadow work that was rooted in my childhood upbringing. The little kid Yuri was always so afraid to cause violent anger, shouting ...
- Fri Jan 31, 2025 11:31 pm
- Forum: THE GATE
- Topic: Breaking the first fetter
- Replies: 36
- Views: 1871
Re: Breaking the first fetter
Hi Elad,
1) At this point, what are your hopes and expectations for this inquiry?
At this point right now when I feel into this inquiry, my hope is to uncover, see the root, and dissolve my belief that says “I have no boundary setting skill and in order to compensate that either I do people ...
1) At this point, what are your hopes and expectations for this inquiry?
At this point right now when I feel into this inquiry, my hope is to uncover, see the root, and dissolve my belief that says “I have no boundary setting skill and in order to compensate that either I do people ...
- Thu Jan 09, 2025 12:21 pm
- Forum: THE GATE
- Topic: Breaking the first fetter
- Replies: 36
- Views: 1871
Re: Breaking the first fetter
Please look at the computer (smartphone or tablet) display before you.
1. Is that screen separate somehow of seeing?
2. Is the screen outside of seeing?
3. Is seeing the screen and the screen two separate things - where does seeing ends and the seen (the screen) begin?
4. Is there a place where ...
1. Is that screen separate somehow of seeing?
2. Is the screen outside of seeing?
3. Is seeing the screen and the screen two separate things - where does seeing ends and the seen (the screen) begin?
4. Is there a place where ...
- Wed Jan 08, 2025 9:51 am
- Forum: THE GATE
- Topic: Breaking the first fetter
- Replies: 36
- Views: 1871
Re: Breaking the first fetter
We have green, red, yellow “apples” so obviously is not the red colour that makes an apple exist on its own, right? We have a lot of other sweet and sour fruits so it’s not the taste, right? We have a lot of other objects that feel the same way, so it can’t be the sensation, right? So what is it ...
- Wed Jan 08, 2025 1:58 am
- Forum: THE GATE
- Topic: Breaking the first fetter
- Replies: 36
- Views: 1871
Re: Breaking the first fetter
Hi Rali,
I have done partial inquiry as I can with my available time. I will be working on the rest and post them in increments like this. This’s dense stuff and my mind is breaking down.
Direct experience can be likened to an abstract painting and if you look at an abstract painting you start ...
I have done partial inquiry as I can with my available time. I will be working on the rest and post them in increments like this. This’s dense stuff and my mind is breaking down.
Direct experience can be likened to an abstract painting and if you look at an abstract painting you start ...
- Tue Jan 07, 2025 9:14 am
- Forum: THE GATE
- Topic: Breaking the first fetter
- Replies: 36
- Views: 1871
Re: Breaking the first fetter
Hi Rali,
Just letting you know that I’m working on the inquiry as I can while running busy with my work. I will post it soon. Didn’t want you to wander what happened. Thank you!
Best,
Yuri
Just letting you know that I’m working on the inquiry as I can while running busy with my work. I will post it soon. Didn’t want you to wander what happened. Thank you!
Best,
Yuri
- Sun Jan 05, 2025 7:52 pm
- Forum: THE GATE
- Topic: Breaking the first fetter
- Replies: 36
- Views: 1871
Re: Breaking the first fetter
Hi Rali,
Thank you for the explanation and encouragement! There was some resistance when I tried to inquire and reply to your responses last few days. The resistance came up as contraction in the chest and the mind started to pay attention to other things to distract from the inquiry.
Thank you ...
Thank you for the explanation and encouragement! There was some resistance when I tried to inquire and reply to your responses last few days. The resistance came up as contraction in the chest and the mind started to pay attention to other things to distract from the inquiry.
Thank you ...
- Thu Jan 02, 2025 10:45 am
- Forum: THE GATE
- Topic: Breaking the first fetter
- Replies: 36
- Views: 1871
Re: Breaking the first fetter
Hi Rali,
Are we still doing the inquiry?
Work and new years got in the way of doing inquiry since the last one. I apologize for not letting you know.
However, is 'an apple' actually known? (Or is it just a label?) Is there really an ‘apple’ here, or only colour and a thought ABOUT ‘apple ...
Are we still doing the inquiry?
Work and new years got in the way of doing inquiry since the last one. I apologize for not letting you know.
However, is 'an apple' actually known? (Or is it just a label?) Is there really an ‘apple’ here, or only colour and a thought ABOUT ‘apple ...
- Mon Dec 30, 2024 7:34 pm
- Forum: THE GATE
- Topic: Breaking the first fetter
- Replies: 36
- Views: 1871
Re: Breaking the first fetter
Hi Rali,
Thank you for your guidance! I really appreciate you take your valuable time to respond to me. What a selfless action ☺️
Before we start let’s just make sure that you understand how to LOOK for no self in the exercises:
I didn’t even know there was a way to look at no self. This’s ...
Thank you for your guidance! I really appreciate you take your valuable time to respond to me. What a selfless action ☺️
Before we start let’s just make sure that you understand how to LOOK for no self in the exercises:
I didn’t even know there was a way to look at no self. This’s ...
- Mon Dec 30, 2024 6:46 am
- Forum: THE GATE
- Topic: Breaking the first fetter
- Replies: 36
- Views: 1871
Re: Breaking the first fetter
If you look for the I, what is there?
When looking for the “I”, there’s a general sense of this body being. Besides the mind created stories and identities, the ears are hearing the heartbeat and the whole body feeling the rhythmic pulsation. The pulsatile feeling traveling up and down the body ...
When looking for the “I”, there’s a general sense of this body being. Besides the mind created stories and identities, the ears are hearing the heartbeat and the whole body feeling the rhythmic pulsation. The pulsatile feeling traveling up and down the body ...
- Sat Dec 28, 2024 2:02 am
- Forum: THE GATE
- Topic: Breaking the first fetter
- Replies: 36
- Views: 1871
Re: Breaking the first fetter
Hi Rali,
Thank you for the technical pointers!
1. What will be different when you realize there’s no separate self?
The assumption is not much difference than right now. Perhaps experiencing and living the reality without sense of self.
2. What do you expect to happen as a result of this ...
Thank you for the technical pointers!
1. What will be different when you realize there’s no separate self?
The assumption is not much difference than right now. Perhaps experiencing and living the reality without sense of self.
2. What do you expect to happen as a result of this ...
- Thu Dec 26, 2024 5:54 pm
- Forum: THE GATE
- Topic: Breaking the first fetter
- Replies: 36
- Views: 1871
Re: Dissolving the illusion of self
LU is focused guiding for seeing there is no real, inherent 'self' - what do you understand by this?
First, there’s an innate deep trust that is beyond the conceptual understanding. The trust was uncovered and pointed by the help of teacher, Dr. Angelo Dilullo, last year. There has been many ...

