Thank you
I've been truly touched by your commitment and willingness to give for the benefit of others.
A big thank you. It's been challenging and freeing.

Ok thank you.
So there is no one to exert control. On reflection the idea of control is delusory. I suppose when one decides to do something there is a feeling or judgement that "I am in control". However there is no controller. So control is part of a narrative. One can obviously do something in a ...

Hello Xain. Thank you for responding. You can call me Rosie.

I understand what you say - that there will be no shift in perception through this process.

You ask what my expectations are.. I am not certain I have any. I know that I don't want to be in so much of my 'me -ness.' I can see the ...

The self is an delusion. It is not a thing. Just a thought in a stream of thoughts. A persistent one enforced by language.
Influenced was exerted in that I ran the bath, took him to it. There were actions that effected reality.
Responsibility is a concept. A word. The direct experience is there is ...

5) There is choice, choosing. But there is no one making the decision. It is not my choice however it is a choice. Control can be exerted. There is not an I in control. For instance my son needs a bath, there is a decision based on care, kindness, duty, obligation, other concepts and thoughts that ...

1) there is no separate self, I, me and there has never been one.
2)the illusion of a separate self is a construct of the mind. It claims experience as its own and tells a story or narrative to make sense of life. This is a delusion. The separate self try's to own thoughts and sensations but these ...

Sounds good :)

Haha, I don't do facebook. That's a bit to much ego projection for me (not everyone).
There is no self so there cannot be one and there is not no self as our mind produces ideas of self.

I choose to awaken as much as possible. As far as the self is concerned, I feel I see the truth. The search is over for the self!
I have one question
When I spoke before of the views of self and no self both being wrong views in Buddhism, what is your view?

I am not filled with questions.
At the beginning of the dialogue i seemed to be caught up in justification and was deflecting the enquiry with analyses rather than what I actually experienced. In the beginning there was resistance.
So in terms of change, there is a relaxing around looking at thought ...

YES! :) my issue was thinking you were suggesting there was no choice or reflection, but I see you were just pointing, making me look. The choices are not mine but there are choices. Reflection happens but it is not my reflection.

I feel this is very much hard determinism, which is unsettling. anyway, you said it earlier that new information leads to new conditions. I can think of many times that by engaging with new information that life changed greatly. However there is not a someone who made that happen. For instance when ...

Someone, a close friend invited me to work at a Buddhist charity. At the time it felt like a natural path to follow from the charity work I was doing. I don't recall influencing this, it just happened.. I certainly reflected after a short period of engagement and I feel that there was a decision to ...

influence can be exerted on conditions. I feel however a kind of inevitability around much of life.
If I reaction causes harm (in whatever form) then there is reflection "can there be less harm". By bringing attention to a reaction can lead to changing it in the future. It is not a matter of good ...

Sorry for the delay, it is a tough question. Trying to stay away from theorising.
I am struggling with what determines a reaction.
I would say that a reaction to stimulus comes in the form of a physical response, a physical reaction. A thing occurs and there is response, it can be a thought response ...