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Guide request

Postby lindsay » Wed Jul 24, 2013 7:59 pm

Looking for Aparimana to guide me please

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Re: Guide request

Postby perrym » Wed Jul 24, 2013 11:34 pm

Hi Lindsay,

Thank you for the invitation!

It is a little late now, I will reply properly tomorrow evening, I hope that is OK,

very best wishes

Perry
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Re: Guide request

Postby lindsay » Thu Jul 25, 2013 7:29 am

Hi, that's fine, look forward to hearing from you,
best wishes,
lindsay

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Re: Guide request

Postby perrym » Fri Jul 26, 2013 12:05 am

Hello again Lindsay,

OK, let's get cracking!

A bit of 'administration' to get out of the way - dull but important!
  • Please could you confirm that you have read the Disclaimer on the home page
  • This site has a nasty habit of quietly logging you out while you are writing ... then when you click 'submit', it tells you "Oh look, you need to log in!", and you lose everything you have written. To avoid gnashing of teeth, it is best to write your replies elsewhere, then copy and paste them in to the reply window - this way, you still have a copy in case the website has logged you out
  • You may find it helpful to click the 'subscribe topic' link at the very bottom of the page to ensure you get an email whenever a reply comes in
  • Let's aim to write once a day if possible, it is a good way to keep up the momentum ... I will confess confess in advance that I cannot always post every day, but that is the general intention!
.... so to get the ball rolling, please could you say a little about what brings you here, and particularly, what you think/hope could come out of the process if successful?

Looking forward to hearing from you!

Perry

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Re: Guide request

Postby lindsay » Fri Jul 26, 2013 2:02 pm

Hi Perry,

Thanks for your message - I'm having trouble copying and pasting from a word document - can you give me some suggestions - my computer won't seem to allow me to paste from that to this website.

Lindsay

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Re: Guide request

Postby lindsay » Fri Jul 26, 2013 2:14 pm

Hi Perry,

Sorry...worked it out.

Thanks for your reply, I confirm that I’ve read the disclaimer.

Will try to post once a day, even if it’s a short response. One thing I did want to ask initially is whether all our conversations are open for everyone registered to read? I’d prefer if they weren’t but if that’s the format then I guess I’ll go with it!

What brings me here …. a friend recommended the website and book some time in February or March and I’ve been fascinated since. One or two of the stories in the book had a strong impact and a feeling of spaciousness , expansion seemed to pervade some of my experience for a while – not long or constant - and hard to describe but definitely as a result of reading the book.

What I hope for, if successful, is more of a sense of release, peace or freedom from the recurring sabotaging stories/thoughts that seem to pop up every so often and that I can then exacerbate, though they aren’t so much of an issue as they used to be and often don’t last so long. More of an ability to stay present to my experience whatever it is, maybe more clarity would be good….umm…I could get carried away with this…

I hope that’s enough to get us started,

Best wishes, Lindsay

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Re: Guide request

Postby perrym » Sun Jul 28, 2013 4:59 pm

Hi Linsay,
worked it out
well done!
whether all our conversations are open for everyone registered to read?
Yup, 'fraid so! In fact, it is visible even to people who are not registered .... The Whole Internet Is Watching :-)

It is one reason I usually recommend anonymity (ie choosing a non-revealing user name) - that way, although the content may be 'public', you needn't feel too exposed.
I hope that’s enough to get us started
Yes, that gives a flavour, thank you!

So, could I ask, what response arises now when you read "There is no such thing as a 'self' to be found anywhere in experience - there is no 'self' and never has been!"

Best wishes,

Perry

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Re: Guide request

Postby lindsay » Mon Jul 29, 2013 11:33 am

What arises in response to ‘there is no such thing as a ‘self” to be found anywhere in experience – there is no ‘self’ and never has been!’

I think two opposing responses – on the one hand a sense of relief and freedom – if that really is the case then I’m completely free, without the limiting thoughts I’ve been telling myself all my life – thank god…. I’m free at last and open, at peace and now life gets interesting and playful, and simple… so really my sense of ‘I’ can do anything it chooses to…. there are no limits…

On the other hand…… oh really? Its all been a lie (that’s the truth of it) and there’s just this endless nothingness, no meaning - without all the stories and fabrications who or what am I? Surely without a sense of ‘self’ or ‘me’ life as I know it will just atrophy, nothing will get done or be achieved, my business will cease to grow and operate efficiently. ‘I’ will just be this vague energy existing and then not existing in some dark corner of the universe, unrecognized, unnoticed.
I think the words ‘ there is no ‘self’ and never has been’ brings up a deep-rooted fear of annihilation.

The paradox is that when I feel as though I’m not operating from a strong sense of self – at work, at home with my family, when I am just with my body, breathing, eating or whatever, I feel more connected, more recognized, more at ease than when I’m bound up with thoughts about this, that or the other; and of course, things do get done.

With thanks and best wishes,
Lindsay

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Re: Guide request

Postby perrym » Mon Jul 29, 2013 11:33 pm

Hi Lindsay,

Thank you for painting such a clear picture!

The fear response is almost universal - on some level, it is very hard not to interpret "there has never been a self" as "you must get rid of your self", but of course, this is not at all what is meant at all! Things have been achieved, your business has been growing and all this has already been happening without any 'self' ... seeing the reality of this cannot take away something that was never there ... of course, you know this already, but there is no harm restating the case!

And yet this fear response is also our friend - it can be a very good pointer to where the 'delusion of self' is being held... so can you investigate, what is it that the fear is protecting? What is the 'self' that could be annihilated?

best wishes

Perry

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Re: Guide request

Postby lindsay » Tue Jul 30, 2013 3:07 pm

Hi Perry,

Thanks for your reply.

The self that could be annihilated is really a collection of memories and stories, thoughts about who ‘I’ am, thoughts about how others perceive ‘me’; so some sort of habitual personality traits and responses, based on past experience and conditioning. It is a body that others recognize as ‘lindsay’; it is feelings that are familiar, sensations that are familiar. The ‘self’ is really nothing at all and so, in truth, does not need protecting.

Though I say this, I don’t really believe it – somehow I believe that the thoughts must come from somewhere, from a directing ‘me’ or ‘self’ and yet I can’t work out how they come about… apart from being the result of previous thoughts that have popped out of the ether or out of previous experience, and they just kind of pop up as I stand here in the present. Does that make sense?

With thanks, Lindsay

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Re: Guide request

Postby perrym » Wed Jul 31, 2013 12:09 am

Hi Lindsay,
Though I say this, I don’t really believe it
haha, yes, good observation :-)

This enquiry works best when we take what we 'really believe', and investigate our experience to see whether what we 'really believe' is what is actually HAPPENING

The key is to look at what is called (on Liberation Unleashed) 'direct experience' ... you probably know instinctively what we mean by 'direct experience', but it is worth going into this a bit, as it is really the foundation for much of what will follow.

By 'direct experience' we mean sense experience, including internal feelings, and observed thoughts, in short, whatever can be directly perceived. This is as opposed to stories, interpretations, theories, speculation, ie being carried along in thought.

For example, if asked 'what is being hungry?', a 'normal' answer might be along the lines of 'it is when I want to eat' ... this is of course quite accurate for normal purposes, but is not getting at the 'direct experience' of being hungry - it still begs the question 'how do you know you want to eat?' .... if one were to speak from 'direct experience', the answer might be along the lines of "a slight tension in the stomach area, thoughts arise containing images of food, and ideas about how to get food."

Why is this important? Essentially, what we are doing is learning to distinguish immediate perception from interpretation and thinking. This is not because thinking and interpretation are in some way 'bad', but because the delusion of 'self' is, precisely, an interpretation that is mistaken for an immediate perception, a thought taken to be a reality.

For our purposes, 'direct experience' is real, sense experience is real, thoughts are real, but the CONTENT of thought is not real. If you read 'King Kong', an image of a huge ape probably arises in your awareness ... this thought is real, but of course, it is only a thought, the ape is not real, there is nothing to run away from. This is, no doubt, obvious. Yet when we think about 'I' and 'self', we behave as if these are real.

And so we investigate what we mean by 'I' - what is actually directly perceived? What is present in Direct Experience? Where is 'I' to be found, and what is it made up of? Is 'I' a sense experience, or an observed thought, or what?

This is my take on 'direct experience' - another guide (Cosmik) has written a short introduction to Direct Experience that will give you a slightly different flavour, and is well worth a read

............... so after that slight diversion, back to the plot .................
I believe that the thoughts must come from somewhere, from a directing ‘me’ or ‘self’ and yet I can’t work out how they come about
OK, this is a great place to start. So on some level you 'know' (or at least feel, or maybe assume) that 'you' are 'the thinking of your thoughts', yes?

Take some time to investigate this, look carefully as thoughts arise, and see whether you can find out, with the certainty of immediate perception, whether there is a 'thinker' to be found in experience, and if so, how this experience is made up, how it develops and unfolds.

Here are some questions that might help give some 'hooks' to your investigation - don't feel you have to answer them, just use them if they help:

* Does the 'thinker' arise and pass away, or is the 'thinker' there all the time?
* Does the thinker know what thought will arise before it happens?
* Does the thinker 'own' the thought?
* How is the thinker separate from the thought?

Have fun, see what you find :-)

Perry

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Re: Guide request

Postby lindsay » Thu Aug 01, 2013 10:22 pm

Hi Perry,

Apologies for my late reply - I wish I had a bit more quiet time to investigate your questions – to ‘think’ about the thinker! Perhaps I should have waited until our low season at work to ask for guidance ….oh well… …. I’ve started so I’ll finish…here’s my response..

The thinker does arise and pass away and isn’t there all the time though generally I believe that thinking happens so quickly as to make me believe its there all the time; waiting to pounce on the unsuspecting being.

The thinker doesn’t know what thought will arise before it happens – thinking is way too random for that.

The thinker thinks it owns the thought but – in a way there are no unique thoughts…they’ve all been thought before in some sense. The thinker can’t own any of them really – they think they do and even feel like they do but they don’t - thoughts just appear sort of haphazardly.

How is the thinker separate from the thought? This is the hardest question – because I am lost in thought most of the time…just as breathing isn’t separate from the breather, breathing isn’t owned- its just breath happening and… I get that , so I guess that somehow thought is just thought happening - but it doesn’t FEEL like it is!

I keep returning to thoughts of - what about when we intentionally direct our thought to think about certain things that we want to resolve – how is that just thought happening? Its too directed, too focused surely to just be thought happening?

...feeling stuck and muddled!

Best wishes,

Lindsay



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Re: Guide request

Postby perrym » Thu Aug 01, 2013 11:17 pm

Hi Lindsay,
feeling stuck and muddled
hey, you're doing fine!

I've got back from work way too late to do you justice tonight, sorry, I'll be back tomorrow!

Just quickly, though:
just as breathing isn’t separate from the breather, breathing isn’t owned- its just breath happening and… I get that , so I guess that somehow thought is just thought happening - but it doesn’t FEEL like it is!
this is good! so you've got what you know on the one hand, and what it feels like on the other ... isn't that annoying? like a wobbly tooth you can't quite leave alone? this tension or dissonance can be the perfect spur to investigate - you can get to the bottom of this, and clear the question up for once and for all, by noticing, looking, investigating .... what exactly is going on during thought? What is the basis for this feeling?

Perry

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Re: Guide request

Postby perrym » Fri Aug 02, 2013 11:57 pm

Hi Lindsay,

OK, I have a bit more time now...
I wish I had a bit more quiet time to investigate your questions
... but maybe you don't! We're all so busy aren't we?

When it comes to the work we are doing here, sometimes it is good to put a bit of time aside (and writing a reply obviously takes a bit of time), but most of the 'investigation' work can be done at random moments during the day .... actually, that is normally better than an intense burst. Hopefully some of these questions will hook your interest, in which case you may find your attention being drawn to them when little spaces open up throughout the day.
to ‘think’ about the thinker


I don't suppose you meant this literally, but I'll take the opportunity for a reminder anyway - we are not primarily in the business of thinking about things here, but directly observing, looking with new eyes [metaphorically of course] at the nature of our experience - thinking and speculation not required!
The thinker does arise and pass away and isn’t there all the time
OK, good ... So is this 'thinker' what you mean by 'my self'? Is 'my self' something that could arise and pass away?
The thinker doesn’t know what thought will arise before it happens
quite!

From what you are saying, it seems that thoughts 'just arise', so in what sense is the thinker 'doing' the thinking?
just as breathing isn’t separate from the breather, breathing isn’t owned- its just breath happening and… I get that , so I guess that somehow thought is just thought happening - but it doesn’t FEEL like it is!
We say 'the wind blows', but where is the wind that is doing the blowing? There is only blowing!

We say "I think" ... but what if there were only thinking, thoughts arising 'in' awareness, no thinker 'doing' it? Is this possible?

Put aside whatever you may rationally believe, and see if this can be resolved through direct experience - Is there really a thinker to be found in experience? Investigate the 'sense' or 'feeling' of a 'thinker', and see what is actually going on underneath!

Best wishes,

Perry

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Re: Guide request

Postby perrym » Sat Aug 03, 2013 12:02 am

btw .... forewarning: I'm on holiday for a week from the 9th (in a week's time). I probably won't be able to post during that time (camping!)


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