Getting closer ...
Posted: Wed Oct 09, 2019 4:18 am
LU is focused guiding for seeing there is no real, inherent 'self' - what do you understand by this?
That the thoughts and body sensations we consider to be our 'selves' are not actually selves at all - moreover they are just thoughts and sensations that have over time become habituated into patterns giving the impression of a solid, permanent entity, that thinks and does. A 'doer'.
The guides help us to 'see' this in a real sense.
What are you looking for at LU?
Help with feeling safe around all this. To 'see' clearly but also to feel that I will not be losing anything sacred. That I will still be able to function in a normal way and get the most from life. One of my greatest hopes would be that the contraction I feel in my solar plexus could one day begin to loosen a little, and not be such a burden (I've noticed its at its tightest when I'm very identified and there are lots of 'me' thoughts, or when there is existential fear present).
I would hope that - in time - life could be lived in a way that has more openness without the fear that seems to accompany it. With more natural flow. To be able to experience reality as it is meant to be experienced.
I would love to have a guide to help me with the passing thru' the 'gateless gate' in a way that feels healthy, in a way that feels right - without the 'undercurrent of nihilism' as I think Ilona described it (such as is found in Jed McKenna's work).
I could also really use some help with regard to the chop wood/carry water side of things. I get a little confused around meaning and purpose - in terms of how that looks after passing thru' the gateless gate.
What do you expect from a guided conversation?
I would hope to be helped to 'see' clearly. To have a guide who would be willing to go around (no doubt) the same questions again and again, with the patience to see things through.
I would also really hope to have a guide who can remain in a place of non-judgement, and keep with the honesty approach as things arise in me. My resistances are bound to be stubborn, from what I know of my personality. So a guide who would believe in my genuine desire to enquire, and not give up on me, would be just great.
If I am to really bring some honesty here....I would say that there is a tendency towards fear of abandonment in my personality. The fear that a guide might just give up on me if I don't give the answers they want me to give. If I'm not a grade-A student straight off the bat.
In one sense the stubbornness is a test ("will they stick with me when all my resistances show up?"), and when thoughts pop up such as "How do I know I'm not being brainwashed into all this?". I'd like a guide who understands that I'm not necessarily attached to all these sub-personalities - I'm merely sharing what is arising.
If I can feel reassured, then I would imagine I might relax into the process, and a guided conversation would help to transition the conceptual understanding I already have, into more 'seeing' and experiential understanding.
I would expect it to be a bit messy though - and I welcome that. I don't expect it to be just a simple clicking of the fingers and 'done'.
What is your experience in terms of spiritual practices, seeking and inquiry?
Around eighteen years or so of meditation practice - on and off. A few retreats and satsangs. The usual books - Eckhart Tolle, Jed McKenna, Daniel Ingram etc. Hundreds of youtube videos watched - Adyashanti, Shinzen Young, Rupert Spira, Jeff Foster, Matt Kahn, Bentinho Massaro etc and lots of interviews on the Buddha at the Gas Pump channel.
A number of years ago I did regular sessions each month with a non-duality coach. I'd had a mental breakdown/anxiety disorder with accompanying long term depression, that I had come to view as a kundalini/dark night/spiritual crisis, and I decided to turn to him for help - as oppose to a conventional therapist. On some level I realised that at the core of all the various crises I'd had in my life was the me/self. It was the one constant throughout all of them. The outside world wasn't going to fix my crisis - and I wasn't willing to just power thru' and 'get better'. I wanted to understand fundamentally what had happened to me - even if it meant staying in depression a while longer. My coach helped me to seriously start working with thought patterns and processes and the habit of identification itself. I had a lot of resistance and constantly looked for a way in which I could master the mind whilst still retaining my 'self'. But I did have progress and my mental health improved gradually.
I kept going with the thought process work and started doing more inquiry (also in shared spaces with others - through Authentic Relating/Circling), and over the last year or so I have released more resistance to the ultimate question of the 'self'.
I now feel more ready, and I would say there is less seeking, and increased 'letting go'.
On a scale from 1 to 10, how willing are you to question any currently held beliefs about 'self?
8
That the thoughts and body sensations we consider to be our 'selves' are not actually selves at all - moreover they are just thoughts and sensations that have over time become habituated into patterns giving the impression of a solid, permanent entity, that thinks and does. A 'doer'.
The guides help us to 'see' this in a real sense.
What are you looking for at LU?
Help with feeling safe around all this. To 'see' clearly but also to feel that I will not be losing anything sacred. That I will still be able to function in a normal way and get the most from life. One of my greatest hopes would be that the contraction I feel in my solar plexus could one day begin to loosen a little, and not be such a burden (I've noticed its at its tightest when I'm very identified and there are lots of 'me' thoughts, or when there is existential fear present).
I would hope that - in time - life could be lived in a way that has more openness without the fear that seems to accompany it. With more natural flow. To be able to experience reality as it is meant to be experienced.
I would love to have a guide to help me with the passing thru' the 'gateless gate' in a way that feels healthy, in a way that feels right - without the 'undercurrent of nihilism' as I think Ilona described it (such as is found in Jed McKenna's work).
I could also really use some help with regard to the chop wood/carry water side of things. I get a little confused around meaning and purpose - in terms of how that looks after passing thru' the gateless gate.
What do you expect from a guided conversation?
I would hope to be helped to 'see' clearly. To have a guide who would be willing to go around (no doubt) the same questions again and again, with the patience to see things through.
I would also really hope to have a guide who can remain in a place of non-judgement, and keep with the honesty approach as things arise in me. My resistances are bound to be stubborn, from what I know of my personality. So a guide who would believe in my genuine desire to enquire, and not give up on me, would be just great.
If I am to really bring some honesty here....I would say that there is a tendency towards fear of abandonment in my personality. The fear that a guide might just give up on me if I don't give the answers they want me to give. If I'm not a grade-A student straight off the bat.
In one sense the stubbornness is a test ("will they stick with me when all my resistances show up?"), and when thoughts pop up such as "How do I know I'm not being brainwashed into all this?". I'd like a guide who understands that I'm not necessarily attached to all these sub-personalities - I'm merely sharing what is arising.
If I can feel reassured, then I would imagine I might relax into the process, and a guided conversation would help to transition the conceptual understanding I already have, into more 'seeing' and experiential understanding.
I would expect it to be a bit messy though - and I welcome that. I don't expect it to be just a simple clicking of the fingers and 'done'.
What is your experience in terms of spiritual practices, seeking and inquiry?
Around eighteen years or so of meditation practice - on and off. A few retreats and satsangs. The usual books - Eckhart Tolle, Jed McKenna, Daniel Ingram etc. Hundreds of youtube videos watched - Adyashanti, Shinzen Young, Rupert Spira, Jeff Foster, Matt Kahn, Bentinho Massaro etc and lots of interviews on the Buddha at the Gas Pump channel.
A number of years ago I did regular sessions each month with a non-duality coach. I'd had a mental breakdown/anxiety disorder with accompanying long term depression, that I had come to view as a kundalini/dark night/spiritual crisis, and I decided to turn to him for help - as oppose to a conventional therapist. On some level I realised that at the core of all the various crises I'd had in my life was the me/self. It was the one constant throughout all of them. The outside world wasn't going to fix my crisis - and I wasn't willing to just power thru' and 'get better'. I wanted to understand fundamentally what had happened to me - even if it meant staying in depression a while longer. My coach helped me to seriously start working with thought patterns and processes and the habit of identification itself. I had a lot of resistance and constantly looked for a way in which I could master the mind whilst still retaining my 'self'. But I did have progress and my mental health improved gradually.
I kept going with the thought process work and started doing more inquiry (also in shared spaces with others - through Authentic Relating/Circling), and over the last year or so I have released more resistance to the ultimate question of the 'self'.
I now feel more ready, and I would say there is less seeking, and increased 'letting go'.
On a scale from 1 to 10, how willing are you to question any currently held beliefs about 'self?
8