Hi Robyn,
When you send me the rest, will you please include all of the answers?
Sure. Here goes.
Is there a separate entity 'self', 'me' 'I', at all, anywhere, in any way, shape or form? Was there ever?
1) There is no separate entity, just the thought of a separate entity. 'I' and 'me' are conventions of language more than anything else. There was never a separate entity in the past either.
2) Explain in detail what the illusion of separate self is, when it starts and how it works from your own experience. Describe it fully as you see it now.
The illusion of the separate self occurs when the sense of being or aliveness is mistaken for a separate self. It starts at an early age, when our parents or other adults introduce the thought of a separate self, and the thought of a separate self is reinforced by society, the subject-verb-object nature of language, and habitual thinking/thought content.
3) How does it feel to see this? What is the difference from before you started this dialogue? Please report from the past few days.
It doesn't feel much different, to be honest. The difference isn't really a feeling, it is more of a clearer seeing or understanding that there is no separate self.
4) What was the last bit that pushed you over, made you look?
I think it was when you said "Expecting a big difference can obscure a subtle shift" and "Seeing through the illusion doesn't mean that the experience of life will be different." I was expecting there to be a different experience of life and when that didn't happen, I was initially disappointed and to be truthful, there is still a little bit of that thinking. But seeing through the illusion is the first step.
And is it clear that all "thinking" is just automatic thoughts and not controlled by anything (as in a you)?
Yes, it is clear.
5) Describe decision, intention, free will, choice and control. What makes things happen? How does it work? What are you responsible for? Give examples from experience.
Decision, intention, free will, choice and control are thoughts. Life makes things happen. I don't know "how" it works, it just does. There is no "I" to be responsible for anything. That doesn't mean that "I" will do all kinds of crazy things because of a lack of personal responsibility. It just means that there is no "I" that is the doer. Life is the doer. Right now there is typing on the keyboard, feeling the cold of the air conditioner, hearing the faint hum of the computer and the keys tapping on the keyboard, but it is happening without a "me" doing it.
6)Is there anything you would like to add?
Not at this time. Thoughts of standing at the gate, maybe with one foot in, but not quite all the way there. A realization that it's a thought.
Thank you so much for your time and kindness, Robyn!
Cliff