Dearest Kay,
1) Is there a separate entity 'self', 'me' 'I', at all, anywhere, in any way, shape or form? Was there ever?
No, never. All there ever has been about it is only a thought 'self', 'me', 'I'.
2) Explain in detail what the illusion of separate self is, when it starts and how it works from your own experience. Describe it fully as you see it now.
It is believing in the content of thoughts and therefore also in the creator of them, 'me'. We grow up into that, we learn it as children when we start to speak and think.
Like all believes the illusion of separate self too has doubt within and is constantly searcing something, anything to proof itself being real never succeeding because it is not real but an illusion.
3) How does it feel to see this? What is the difference from before you started this dialogue? Please report from the past few days.
It feels very natural and at the same time I would love to feel it more, deeper, stronger. Maybe it just needs time.
The most radical difference is plainly how I see things and all, not divided nor personal but as parts of constant happening. That effects everything. Then the free access to the energy and time that was before consumed to keep up the illution. Absence of conditional. A deep, undisturbed feeling of peace. Clarity! That's how we started, I wanted clarity and you answered: There is no separate entity, other than an idea, that could achieve or gain clarity or anything.
4) What was the last bit that pushed you over, made you look?
I don't know exactly, feels more like little steps than one big leap. When the fear of looking started to vanish by some real seeing everything became easier.
In this message the questions 2. and 5. expanded and deepened the seeing.
I'm pretty convinced that there would and will be more and more questions pushing the seeing further and deeper. At the moment I feel like I know nothing but I'm starting to see.
5) Describe decision, intention, free will, choice and control. What makes things happen? How does it work? What are you responsible for? Give examples from experience.
They are knights of Self, stories, contents of thoughts. Things just happen, I can't experience how it works but it seems to work just fine. I'm not responsible, nobody is.
Seeing choice and decision as not being made by me was particulary difficult.
Why and how have I been searching for truth never happy with anything replacing it while a friend is not even willing to listen or know about the whole subject. That seemed like a proof for personal choocing and deciding until I asked myself was there actually even a choice? No, there wasn't. Nobody choosing, no choice to be done. Things couldn't be differently.
6) Anything to add?
Thankfullnes for your guiding, kindness, support, time and love. Big, fat gratitude to you and everybody who have seen before me and made the opening bigger. Gratitude to all and everything. Nothing could be different.
Endless love,
Pietalinda