The Gate

You're looking for something to happen in a future. It's already here now.

That's why I say just sit & LOOK.

It does take patience.

Relax. You can't see if you're stressed.

Loving

Ok I’ll keep at it, thanks.

Chris

Does it always have to be the butt? Does it matter if sometimes it’s my feet on the floor or back against the chair?

Chris

That's fine. Just you & something that you don't usually consider "you.."

But why do you need to change the pointer?

Loving

I don’t need to change it. It’s just sometimes easier to focus on different parts of my body. And there’s absolutely nothing else I need to do? Just focus on there being no division between my body and contact with things?

Chris

Yes. That's all. That's what I did.

Loving,

Ok one last thing. You said that a stressful situation with a person you wanted to date brought you down and got in the way of seeing. There are more than a few things in my life that make me sad on a daily basis- mainly bitter memories from childhood. Could this be a problem?

Chris

Yes, maybe.

I suggest questioni your thinking using The Work of Byron Katie.

https://thework.com/


has everything you need.. Watch some of her videos. They also offer a free helpline.

Loving

Ok I’ll have a look, thanks.

Chris

Hi Stacy,

I went to Vince’s meeting the other day. He was talking a lot about how nothing is in my control, it’s all just happening. Just today I’ve been having what I think are very brief and light glimpses. Mainly for 20 minutes or so after meditating. It briefly becomes easy to see that thoughts are happening by themselves. Should I keep looking here?

Chris

Good. Relax into that!

Loving

Hi Stacy, the glimpses seem to have subsided. Haven’t had any in a couple of days. I’m still doing buttchair though.

Chris

They come & go.

Loving,