No-self

[Anastacia42]

You're looking for something to happen in a future. It's already here now.

That's why I say just sit & LOOK.

It does take patience.

Relax. You can't see if you're stressed.

Loving

[Chrisisit]

Ok I’ll keep at it, thanks.

Chris

[Chrisisit]

Does it always have to be the butt? Does it matter if sometimes it’s my feet on the floor or back against the chair?

Chris

[Anastacia42]

That's fine. Just you & something that you don't usually consider "you.."

But why do you need to change the pointer?

Loving

[Chrisisit]

I don’t need to change it. It’s just sometimes easier to focus on different parts of my body. And there’s absolutely nothing else I need to do? Just focus on there being no division between my body and contact with things?

Chris

[Anastacia42]

Yes. That's all. That's what I did.

Loving,

[Chrisisit]

Ok one last thing. You said that a stressful situation with a person you wanted to date brought you down and got in the way of seeing. There are more than a few things in my life that make me sad on a daily basis- mainly bitter memories from childhood. Could this be a problem?

Chris

[Anastacia42]

Yes, maybe.

I suggest questioni your thinking using The Work of Byron Katie.

https://thework.com/


has everything you need.. Watch some of her videos. They also offer a free helpline.

Loving

[Chrisisit]

Ok I’ll have a look, thanks.

Chris