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melon14
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I would like to apply as a guide

Postby melon14 » Sat Nov 02, 2024 9:30 pm

LU is focused guiding for seeing there is no real, inherent 'self' - what do you understand by this?
There is no division between you and the exterior world that you experience

What are you looking for at LU?
To guide other people to help them experience selflessness. 5 years ago, I registered as a guest on here, and was guided by someone from this forum. Now that I’m much better acquainted with the feeling of selflessness, I want to see if I can help guide others on here.

What do you expect from a guided conversation?
To guide other people to help them experience selflessness. 5 years ago, I registered as a guest on here, and was guided by someone from this forum. Now that I’m much better acquainted with the feeling of selflessness, I want to see if I can help guide others on here.

What is your experience in terms of spiritual practices, seeking and inquiry?
Sam Harris waking up app, Alan Watts, Adyashanti, Joseph Goldstein, are just some of the people whose content I’ve consumed and who have helped me immensely.

On a scale from 1 to 10, how willing are you to question any currently held beliefs about 'self? 10

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Re: I would like to apply as a guide

Postby warissem » Mon Nov 04, 2024 9:43 am

Good morning

What was your username the last time you were guided here?

Does the username get blue color?
If the user name got blue, you can enter directly as a guide. If not there is a need to go through this forum again.

Let me know.
Best wishes

Nour

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Re: I would like to apply as a guide

Postby melon14 » Mon Nov 04, 2024 10:14 am

Hi!

Unfortunately, I can’t remember what my previous username on here was.

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Re: I would like to apply as a guide

Postby warissem » Mon Nov 04, 2024 4:39 pm

Hi

There are questions for you. Ponder on them and give answers after seeing their truth.

1) Is there a separate entity 'self', 'me' 'I', at all, anywhere, in any way, shape or form? Was there ever?

2) Explain in detail what the illusion of separate self is, when it starts and how it works from your own experience. Describe it fully as you see it now.

3) How does it feel to see this? What is the difference from before you started this dialogue? Please report from the past few days.

4) What was the last bit that pushed you over, made you look?

5) Describe decision,
intention,
free will,
choice and control.

What makes things happen? How does it work? Give examples from experience.

What are you responsible for? Give examples from experience.

6) Anything to add?

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Re: I would like to apply as a guide

Postby melon14 » Mon Nov 04, 2024 5:14 pm

There is not and never was a separate self anywhere, in any shape or form. The illusion of self is the feeling of being the experiencer, separate from experience and to which experience happens. Yet upon inspection, this experiencer is nowhere to be found apart from experience itself. There is experience, but no “one” to which it happens. To feel this is to simply relax and let everything be as it is. It feels free of worry or concern. This understanding has been manifesting in me gradually, but it feels now that I can be completely happy regardless of what my life circumstances are. Before, I was much more attached to whether or not things were going well in my life. For example, I fear the death of my loved ones a lot less than I used to. I learned through repeatedly trying and failing to see through the illusion of self that I couldn’t do anything about it, and gave up, which helped push me into the understanding that there was no I that could do or not do anything anyway. Decision/intention/choice continue to arise and continue to feel as though it’s done by me unless I pay closer attention. I don’t believe in free will or control, as there’s no controller. Everything just spontaneously happens and is known from the inside. There is no you to be responsible for anything. There are all statements that I first believed and then understood conceptually, but I now feel them to be true.

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Re: I would like to apply as a guide

Postby warissem » Tue Nov 05, 2024 3:23 pm

Hi Melon

I prefer to go with you for some time then we will see where it gets.

First, there is a need to learn how to use the quote function here : https://www.youtube.com/watch?app=desktop&v=-fAToDNh9hQ
Read the disclaimer text and give your agreement to it.

Here is the first point to work with :

How has life changed after you have seen that there is no you, no separate self?
Is there a change in your day to day life?
What is the difference between before seeing through the illusion and now? Is there a point of rupture which you can speak about?
From where are you seeing these words?
What is seeing and understanding these words?

Give answer to each question separately.

Waiting for your insights

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Re: I would like to apply as a guide

Postby melon14 » Fri Nov 08, 2024 12:49 am

Ok, I just watched the video on the quote function. Not sure where to find the disclaimer text, though.
How has life changed after you have seen that there is no you, no separate self?
Is there a change in your day to day life?
What is the difference between before seeing through the illusion and now? Is there a point of rupture which you can speak about?
It’s hard to say how life has changed. I generally feel more at peace, but the biggest thing is that I no longer feel there is any crucial insight I haven’t seen in my meditation practice. I am also less ambitious than I used to be.
What is the difference between before seeing through the illusion and now? Is there a point of rupture which you can speak about?
Not sure exactly what you mean by this question, but I have now had the experience maybe 100 times of feeling literally completely inseparable from everything else around me over the past few years- hope this answers it.
From where are you seeing these words?
I am seeing these words from where they appear.
What is seeing and understanding these words?
I dont know.

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Re: I would like to apply as a guide

Postby warissem » Fri Nov 08, 2024 7:01 pm

Good evening
Not sure exactly what you mean by this question, but I have now had the experience maybe 100 times of feeling literally completely inseparable from everything else around me over the past few years- hope this answers it.
Let' us begin from here. Please give answers to each question separately.
I invite you to LOOK AT what is pointed to through the question, then SEE the answer before coming back here.
Example :
Question : what is the color of the sky, right now?
As you the question is pointing to seeing the color of the sky.
LOOK AT the sky and SEE its color before giving the answer. This is honesty and certainty.

Right now, are you inseparable from the screen?
What are you?

Waiting for your insights

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Re: I would like to apply as a guide

Postby melon14 » Fri Nov 08, 2024 7:24 pm

Right now, are you inseparable from the screen?
Yes, I am inseparable from the screen.
What are you?
I don’t know.

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Re: I would like to apply as a guide

Postby warissem » Sat Nov 09, 2024 10:13 am

Hi melon

Here are some pointers for you :

What happens to "you" when thoughts arise and disappear?

What happens when there is no "you" to control or judge things?

What is your relationship to the present moment now?

What does "awareness" feel like to you?

Are you the one who is experiencing, or are you the experience itself?

How are you going to help "others" to go through the illusion of a separate self?

Best wishes

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Re: I would like to apply as a guide

Postby melon14 » Sat Nov 09, 2024 2:38 pm

What happens to "you" when thoughts arise and disappear?
Nothing happens to me.
What happens when there is no "you" to control or judge things?
Everything continues to happen anyway.
What is your relationship to the present moment now?
I am the present moment now. I feel this.
What does "awareness" feel like to you?
I can’t describe it.
Are you the one who is experiencing, or are you the experience itself?
This seems to me to be the same question as asking for my relationship to the present moment. I am experience itself.
How are you going to help "others" to go through the illusion of a separate self?
This may be a tough one. It isn’t something anyone can really “do” (or not do). I’ve tried many different things in different directions and seeing that there wasn’t anything I could do eventually let me just be. I also found that listening to many different people who seemed to understand this (Sam Harris, Alan Watts, Adyashanti, Joseph Goldstein, etc) helpful because I was able to intuit the commonality in what they were trying to point at. Maybe I could be one more voice for someone seeking.

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Re: I would like to apply as a guide

Postby warissem » Sat Nov 09, 2024 8:05 pm

Hi melon

You are giving the right answers. Now, I will invite other guides to read our dialog. They would have questions or comments about this.

be patient

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Re: I would like to apply as a guide

Postby melon14 » Sat Nov 09, 2024 8:14 pm

Lol sounds good!

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Re: I would like to apply as a guide

Postby warissem » Sat Nov 09, 2024 8:42 pm

Hi melon

Here are two questions from a guide :

Describe the sensory experience when you say :"I am inseparable from the screen“

How do you know that you are the experience?

Thank you

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Re: I would like to apply as a guide

Postby melon14 » Sat Nov 09, 2024 9:11 pm

Describe the sensory experience when you say :"I am inseparable from the screen“
The screen appears along with everything else without division or demarcation.
How do you know that you are the experience?
How could I not know? This is the only thing I am really sure of. Knowledge is not the best term, but all words fail here.


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