Caro Allain,

Não vou estar mais como guia neste site. Se necessitar de novo de um guia alguém me substituirá.

Desejo-lhe as maiores felicidades!

Dear Vic,

I am not able to work with you anymore because I will no longer be here.

I'm going to communicate it in order for you can have another guide if you want to continue.

Wishing you all the best. You are very near!

Dear Kevin,

Maybe you can get answers to your questions elsewhere, maybe in a psychotherapy. I am not able to work with you anymore.

Wishing you all the best.

Hi Kevin!

Do not make efforts trying not to control. By doing that, you are trying to control 'the controller', do you see? Just observe when the need to control arises, observed what is happening in that precise moment. E gentle with yourself. If you start to observe the arising of the urge to ...

Vi Vic! Are you ok?

Olá Allain!

Era importante que você conseguisse ir mantendo o nosso diálogo todos os dias. Isso poderia ajudá-lo a questionar e compreender as coisas com mais clareza.

Talvez você passe por momentos complicados ou de dúvida. Não há nenhum mal nisso, não está sozinho. Vamos co. Vamos lá, espero por ...

Viva Watts!

Que bom que você está aqui de novo!

Você sente que mudou. Nós sempre mudamos, às vezes mais depressa que outras. Não somos de facto estáticos nem imutáveis.

A sua apreensão sai desse momento coconturbado que está a viver. Observe esse facto, as emoções que vão surgindo, os nomes que o ...

For your last comments: This sense of self, does it correspond to a real, separate self? In direct experience, how do you know that there us an inner and an outer?

As thoughts arise within awareness the thought is experienced as object. The awareness which the thought arises within is then experienced as subject. The observer arises out of the observed.

Exactly. Thoughts, feelings, sensations, arise and awareness notice them all. There's no observer, nor ...

And every time emotions came up, you feel more stuck and with even more necessity to control... And every time you act in order to control, you see that this control isn't controlling nothing, you feel more fear, emotions came up, and... and so, and so, and so! The vicious cycle restarts again and ...

You said when watching thoughts you are not some separate entity apart from thoughts.

- Very good observation!

Indeed! At that moment you are the thought. 'You', the 'I', are also thoughts. Thoughts arising and then telling the story, "it must be me".

And you said;

"When I am actively thinking ...

So, from what you said:

Fear is felt as emotions, anxiety, stress and discomfort, and it serves the purpose of protect your self image. When thought is linked to these body sensations, a story starts to build up telling you that you must control, you must show everybody that you are respected and ...

As a thought? What do you feel when there's fear?

What is that quiet center, where did you find it? How can a quiet center produce such not quiet experiences? Why have you that fear Kevin? Look deeply and find when did that fear arise for the first time and how did it happens.

so in a sense they are both passing experiences

And yes Vic, your 'self' and others are both passing experiences. Is there a self needed for experiences to happen? Or is that only experiencing: thoughts, emotions, volitions... arising and go... Sometimes subtle... sometimes strong... just arising ...