Thanks for the kindness with which you guided me! I certainly intend to guide others as well as stay in touch in Facebook.

Sincerely,
Shobana

Would you give some more examples of 'no controller, no decider'.
When you say "the brain decides", this is an assumption. Right ? You can't know this from direct experience, so can itr be known where control or decisions come from ?
Yes, I said brain decides based on what I saw in the Secret you ...

Here (for vince) ALL emotions have intensified.
Anything for me to process/ look into why emotions will be intensified or what it would feel like?

Also, Seeing that we do what we do because of our wirings, gives me more acceptance of our behaviors. So, there are less charged-emotions (and ...

My toddler has been interrupting me several times and so I'm going to submit my replies now though I haven't been able to proof-read them. If I have more thoughts, I'll post them in a separate reply.

Haven't thought of anything more to add.

Shobana

1) Is there a separate entity 'self', 'me' 'I', at all, anywhere, in any way, shape or form? Was there ever?
Not a separate entity, ever. Self is just a label, an artifact of language, for ease of communication.

2) "Describe your experience of the illusion of separate self, how it arises ...

Really we are talking about what is Real, and what is Thought stuff.
When you talk about SEEing other peoples (and your own) wiring, you can SEE how the very real reactions to the very UNreal stories that they have come to believe, happens.
Now to complicate matters, there are some very pleasant ...

I'm also seeing somewhat that all that is real is what I'm physically experiencing and everything else (as far as I can see now) are thought stories. In that sense, I see that THIS (whatever is happening at the moment) is all there is (IS IT).

Ask 'yourself' this; How far in the future is your (mental) gaze ? Looking for the time when enlightenment comes ?
I didn't get into this for enlightenment or out of intellectual curiosity but rather to decrease suffering in everyday living. To avoid arguments to defend Self, especially in front ...

I'll move over this also given my recent realizations here..

Oops, that was supposed to be mull over this also..

But we haven't finished here yet.
When I replied to your "This IS IT", I had a thought about whether you meant the end here or not but didn't think more about it. The rest of what I said, I meant it either way. Seeing what you wanted me to see w.r.t. the current point.

What we discuss here ...

So when i say "This IS IT !", what is your reaction.
That is all there is to it? I'm seeing what you wanted to show me (what I was seeking but not really knowing what it was)?!

BTW, since y'day, I've been seeing that this is a way of not getting affected (cause suffering to myself ) by something ...

Even though it was days ago when you had that experience, i want you to recall it and add the laugh.
I recalled a few and laughed at each. I was surprised that the laughing lightened the seriousness of those thought stories even though I recalled them as mere thought stories! I wonder if I'm ...

i hope that you remembered to attach a laugh to that experience.
Didn't occur to me but yes, good way to reinforce the new habit.

"Ho-hum, it happened again..." - what do you say to that ?
I had (have) sense that that's how it's going to be. Looking forward to more and more of it (thought story ...

Hi Vince,

I've been composing a long message but wasn't sure if I needed to write all that story.

In short, a friend of mine (got liberated here recently) revealed a few days ago that a friend she had introduced to me had broken my trust in some way. Also, I perceived my own friend to have handled ...

freee wrote:
happening on its own,
As you actually hear what you say, it will have big implications for your son too.
You are saying this just in a general sense right? The words I use when I talk to my son would affect how he perceives things in life right?

Now it may just be language, and it ...