Thank you so much Stacy,

I would love to help others by guiding too, maybe when everything has settled within a bit more. Can I still reach you here at any point in the future?

Much love

Thank you so much Stacy,
deepest love

Hi Stacy,

apologies for the delay, life got very busy for a few days.

Ok so here goes with the answering of the questions.....



1) Is there a separate entity 'self', 'me' 'I', at all, anywhere, in any way, shape or form? Was there ever?
No ! Never was, never will be. It only feels like a ...

Hi Stacy,

4) What was the last bit that pushed you over, made you look?

Even if it faded, what may have shown you there's no "self

It built over the exercises, each one made it clearer but the real push was knowing that as a young child I existed just perfectly without a self!

Thank you and much ...

Hi Stacy,
it took ages to upload the last reply I sent you (site kept crashing) so the formatting was wrong and some parts were missing.

Explain in detail what the illusion of separate self is, when it starts and how it works from your own experience. Describe it fully as you see it now. Can you ...

Hi Stacy

You asked “Emotions are a Sensation, usually the lie contraction, plus a thought story & labels. Take those apart & what is Actual Experience?”
Yes, I see that emotions arise from sensations felt somewhere in the body that cause thoughts about the emotion and then a story builds around it ...

Hi Stacy,

One more thing… before I started this process with you, I would have ‘known’ the answer to these last questions and enjoyed answering them intellectually. Now i find them baffling to attempt to answer.

Much love

Hi Stacy,

1. No there isn’t a separate self and there never was, only the illusion of self generated by thoughts.

2. I can’t really explain this in words

3. It feels freeing to see this. Before the dialogue we have been having I was anxious to see through the me stuff. Looking directly without ...

Hi Stacy
Yes there has been a shift for sure, each question you asked shed layers of false self.

I suppose I was expecting bliss but just knowing/seeing is enough. I will spend more time being with the knowing.
I’m away for the weekend, back Monday so will be away from computers.

Much love

Hi Stacy
What "deeper" do you expect? What would that be like?

I honestly dont know. There is still a whirlwind of thought clamouring for attention, tension in the jaw, yet somehow that feels ok.

I am a little suspicious that the me is just laying low yet still lurks in wait, ready to grab hold ...

Hi Stacy,

Since you can't find any separate self, can you say 100% there's is no separate self?

It seems I can say that for sure yes. I fully get what you say about thoughts, that all thinking is useless ! I can feel there is much more depth to this than is here currently though, so there feels ...

Thanks Stacy,


Please LOOK for any place where your butt ends & the chair begins.

When I look I feel no distinction between my bum and the chair. It feels like floating after a while

Is there any clear dividing line between them? Or only the Sensation with no clear division?

There is no ...

Hi Stacy,
I love this : ) I began with my hand then moved on to noticing general movement like walking, going to the loo, making food etc.
How is the movement controlled?
I don't know but it is not what I thought was 'me'.
Does a thought control it?
No it seems not.
Can a ‘controller’ of any ...

Hi Stacy,

oof this was deep !

Is there really an ‘apple’ here, or only color and a thought ABOUT ‘apple’?
Using direct experience it is clear that only colour and shape are here, thoughts about apple are a story of what apple is based on events from memory (other thoughts).

Can ‘apple’ be ...

Hi Stacy,

When you look at the word label ‘GREEN’, what is the actual experience?
Somehow the colour red is experienced or thought about
Is the red color "experienced" or is color green "experienced" as the label suggests?
Red is the experience, green seems to be irrelevant
Do the labels have ...