great. let's make it 11:15. let me know if that doesn't work for you, but if it does you don't need to respond

Can you do this tuesday, Aug 4, 11am, and create a zoom session that will be video recorded to review later?

Let's try for a Zoom in 2 weeks when I'm back in Mexico

LUCAS, what's happening?

so what do you want to happen when those thoughts occur?

So those thoughts are taking attention away from what you the body is actually doing?
And does it still seem like a problem that those thoughts are happening?

Cool, Lucas.

How are you spending your days now?

And whatever is in your attention is you, always in change and flow.

And whatever is in your attention, that's what you are

cool.

you don't have to actually sit and try to feel it.
tho that might end up happening.

you are a body.
maybe you are a body that feels good doing some kinds of things with other people.

maybe you are a body that feels good doing other things.

whatever your body is doing, that's what you are ...

let the visceral reaction do whatever it wants to do while you relax wide open to all your senses.
stay with that as much as you can, see what happens.

words and thoughts about it will happen, just relax back open to your senses. use the exercise I sent.

remember--it's learning to RELAX open

there is some aversion to just sitting with them, as if they will make my mood worse or make me face uncomfortable truths about my behavior, such as a disconnect between who I believe myself to be and what actually looking at how I am acting implies.

Is this shame?

What happens when shame gets ...

Do you know logically there is no one to blame?

Do you believe that shame makes one a "better" person somehow?

Or that it is wrong not to feel shame about harmful behavior in the past vs simply learn from it and, if possible, make amends?

Beautiful noticing!

Yep, blame and shame are terribly burdening sufferings for sure.

Who is to blame?

When the objects of shame are pushed away, when does the neocortex have the open space and time to process and see them from the most insightful perspective, i.e. that there's no one to blame ...