Thank you very much Stacy for all the help.I’m checking out the resources. Thanks again and much love!

Hi Stacy,

1) Is there a separate entity 'self', 'me' 'I', at all, anywhere, in any way, shape or form? Was there ever?

There is no 'self', 'I', 'me'. There never was.

2) Explain in detail what the illusion of separate self is, when it starts and how it works from your own experience. Describe ...

Hi Stacy,

Please let me post the replies tomorrow. Dealing with some stressful situations here taking up all the time for the last 2 days.

That said, are you ready to answer our traditional "final" questions?

Yes Stacy. Ready for them. Thanks.

The "expectations list" was pasted twice it seems. Sorry about that!

Hi Stacy :)

What will it take for you to let go of believing this obvious lie?

This was a wonderful question! I've been asking this since yesterday. Kept writing down what is it that is needed for me to say 100% there is no self. Seems there were some expectations, all of which sounds very ...

can you now say 100% there's no "self?"

I have been staring at this question for some time. I'm so sorry Stacy, but for some reason it would be dishonest if I said 100%. I really don't know why. I have seen there is no self. But the tendency when reading this question is to look and check in ...

Does the sense of self have a location?

No.

Does the sense of self have a shape or a size?

No.

Does the sense of self say or communicate anything?
If the answer is yes, how does the sense do this exactly?

No.

Does the sense of self have any characteristics or attributes?

No.

What is ...

Hi Stacy,

I went through the gateless gatecrashers as you suggested. The conversation with Jamie resonated very well with me. I think I see this (again). I had seen this the last time I went through this book. Damn. There is no self, yes.

What was happening here was that somehow an assumption of ...

Hi Stacy,

Something interesting happened earlier. I think I'm starting to understand what Advaita folks mean when they say "I am". I had never understood this before, so this is new. Was just seeing the visual space and it felt like I am here. Not as body, not as thoughts, but just here. I am ...

Sure, thanks. Will do this.

Did the Buttchair practice today. Kept looking at where they meet. Feeling quite relaxed and absorbed into the visual experience. Feeling absorbed into the visual experience of the buttchair, followed by questioning "are they separate", followed by sensations where they ...

Hi Stacy,

Have you watched these? Please do.

https://youtu.be/vJQcD588g2w

and

https://youtu.be/PUDzrCLlrj4

Yes I have, I watched them again now.

Please LOOK for any place where your butt ends & the chair begins.

Is there any clear dividing line between them? Or only the Sensation with no clear division?

If I turn my head to the left, I see the left side of butt touching the chair.
If I turn my head to the right, I see the right side of ...

There is no self outside of what is seen, felt, thought etc. What is seen, felt, thought etc. are not self either.
Oh I really thought this was it. Could you please let me know what is missing Stacy? Only if that wouldn't be counterproductive to the exercise, of course. I'll keep practicing that ...

Can you say 100% that there is no separate self anywhere and never has been?


There is no self outside of what is seen, felt, thought etc. What is seen, felt, thought etc. are not self either. If this is all that we mean by saying there is no separate self, yes, there is no separate self and ...