Dear Lucia,

this body mind reacted with rage

Well, of course, it did.
1) "this body mind" is trying to protect itself.
It might be saying/thinking/feeling something like "Get away from me." or "I'm not safe here with you." or "I need to protect myself." or "I need to protect my family." You tell ...

Dear Lucia,

I noticed that these thoughts are swinging

Hooray! You've noticed the civil war of the mind.

thought--I'm a bad person because i lost my patience.
thought--I'm not a bad person (I'm actually good) because i've been putting up with this man for 17 years. In fact, i have 17 years of ...

Dear Lucia,

Wow. What a tangle of thoughts! And yet you have the distance to know that thoughts are the culprit. Some thoughts give rise to emotions. Ai-yi-yi!

You might consider attending Vince Schubert's meet-ups. He's been an LU guide for 12 years.
I'll send you the link directly.


Now, let's ...

Dear Lucia,

What did "putting on your own oxygen mask first" look like during your conversation with your brother?

Love,
Cheryl

Dear, dear Lucia,

I'm SO glad you took a walk in the mountains.

You know what they say on the airplane:

Put your own oxygen mask on first.

What would that look like?

Love,
Cheryl

Dear Lucia,

How is the situation with your brother different from domestic violence?

Love,
Cheryl

Wow Lucia. There are a lot of unexamined thoughts running around.

Does your brother traumatize you?
Does he traumatize your daughters?

Love,
Cheryl

Dear Lucia,

There is Lucia that has to face problems

Who is this Lucia who has to face problems?
Where in the body is this Lucia?


she’s afraid

Describe "she's afraid" in terms of Direct Experience.


I feel obligated to take care of him

Who says you have to take care of him?
Lucia ...

Dear Lucia,

Thanks for your patience. Summer is delightfully busy.

full of problems to face

The ego, the self sees problems, names it "problem".
I myself excel at problem-solving, which is something i love to do.
However, when i look closely, what do i find?

Is there an "I" who solves ...

Dear Lucia,

Ah yes. Doubt. The 2nd fetter.

What is here if there’s no problem to solve?

What is here if there’s no thought?

I suggest Pernille Damore "s videos on 2nd Fetter Doubt.

I'm at a cabin on a lake with no wifi this week, so i am not prompt in responding to you

Love,
Cheryl

Hi Lucia,

How are you doing with the Final Questions?

Looking forward to hearing from you.

I think you'd make a fine guide. And in Italian!!!

Love,
Cheryl

Dear Lucia,

Here are the final questions. Please answer all questions in full, when you are ready.

1) Is there a separate entity 'self', 'me' 'I', at all, anywhere, in any way, shape or form? Was there ever?

2) Explain in detail what the illusion of separate self is, when it starts and how it ...

Dear Lucia,

How’s life these days?
Is there still seeking?
Is there anything else that you want to explore together specifically?

Love,
Cheryl

Yep.

Eight billion people.
Eight billion different perceptions.
Eight billion different "worlds."

Love,
Cheryl

Dear Lucia,

if I am not my body or my thoughts, who am I?

When you say it that way, you remind me of Roberto Assiagioli (founder of psychosynthesis), whose disidentification exercise went right along those lines.
"I have a body, but i am not my body.
I have emotions, but i am not my emotions.
I ...