Your guidance has been invaluable Floris. Thank you for such kindness, patience, humour and wisdom. The greatest gift. Eternally grateful.

Part of this process is seeing that there has been self identification attached to unpleasant emotion and the expectation that seeing “no self” would bring about relief from suffering is unrealistic.

At this moment the seeing of no self, does not mean the end of suffering. Suffering is occurring. The pain/ difficulty of witnessing the suffering of a loved one can’t be overstated. The relationship to the suffering has changed. It is still felt. There is a lessening of the pain because the ...

When resistance to a situation arises... the “sense of me” asserts itself with greater strength.
One of the other guides asked for some clarification at this statement. Can the sense of self become strong or weak? What are your thoughts on that?



There is seeing of how the sense of illusory self ...

Dank u wel Florisness.

Is there a separate entity 'self', 'me' 'I', at all, anywhere, in any way, shape or form? Was there ever?

No. This is now seen as an impossibility. There never was a self... but it was believed in!



Explain in detail what the illusion of separate self is, when it starts and how it works from ...

Are you trying to believe there is no self? If so, you don't need such a belief.

Are you talking about trying to maintain a belief as opposed to having a knowing? Not clear on this.

Are you hoping that an insight that there is no self will alleviate all the things you don't want to feel? I'm thinking that you already might be more clear on this then you think you are, but just have an expectation that an insight should come that will change things all of a sudden? It's often ...

In a nutshell... with the knowing that there is no me.... there is still suffering, there is still a “sense of me”. Perhaps this is just attaching self identity to any feeling that arises that is deemed uncomfortable.

So it is a process of letting go of many pre-conceived notions of what seeing “no self” is.

The state of no self is imagined as one where there is an abiding sense of inner peace with no resistance to what is and while suffering may arise, it wouldn’t be seen as personal or felt as all consuming ...

Suffering happening everywhere in these strange times. Hoping you and loved ones are in a safe and healthy place right now Floris. Sending love and deepest thanks for all of this pure goodness, kindness, light and guidance.

What Is being experienced is the suffering of a loved one. Feeling too much darkness for too long.

I understand

Thank you Floris.


So what are you resisting here exactly? Are you trying to get away from the feelings? What if you would allow all the feelings to come? A good question I've found ...

Will respond to your latest guidance.

Love M.

Love surround you Floris. Something is breaking through tonight There is laughing at the situation. A release of this profound, painful love story with this non existent self. At least for this moment.
What will tomorrow bring? Don’t know. Will this deepen? Right now, even this moment of seeing and ...

Move the attention outside of the 'body', just to a chosen point in space. Try to describe what is there, what it is. Maybe 'space', or 'awareness' works for you. Now answer/chose if you would describe that spot as being a person/biological entity/mesmer or that it is just space/awareness/whatever ...