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by GeraldF
Wed Mar 18, 2015 7:53 pm
Forum: ARCHIVES
Topic: Thread for Gerald.
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Re: Thread for Gerald.

Good afternoon, Ilona. Just sharing my thoughts of the day... Can you find a doer, a thinker, a manager behind this experiencing of life? Is there a separate entity that life is happening to? Was there ever? When I had some waves of anxiety on waking at two a.m., I tried to relax into it – not very ...
by GeraldF
Tue Mar 17, 2015 8:35 pm
Forum: ARCHIVES
Topic: Thread for Gerald.
Replies: 61
Views: 5254

Re: Thread for Gerald.

Hello there, Ilona. As you can see, guilt and fear are trying to help. It's ok for them to do so. If that's what you need. If that's what works, right? Does it work? Is stress helpful? What do you find? I can see that guilt and fear can be helpful for motivation. And stress can also be helpful, even...
by GeraldF
Mon Mar 16, 2015 10:19 am
Forum: ARCHIVES
Topic: Thread for Gerald.
Replies: 61
Views: 5254

Re: Thread for Gerald.

Good morning, Ilona. More challenging questions! Can you bring back a memory, where you first heard this phrase about needing to manage yourself. Who said that? I think “I” came up with managing myself on my own. I was unpopular as a child (overweight, gay), so I realized I needed to perform well to...
by GeraldF
Sun Mar 15, 2015 2:25 pm
Forum: ARCHIVES
Topic: Thread for Gerald.
Replies: 61
Views: 5254

Re: Thread for Gerald.

PS I was just doing some household tasks, and my mind was reminding me that I "should" be taking care of another work-related matter. Instead of treating my mind as a strict boss who's always nagging me, I followed your deep looking technique. I said, "Thank you, mind, that's a very good suggestion....
by GeraldF
Sun Mar 15, 2015 12:43 pm
Forum: ARCHIVES
Topic: Thread for Gerald.
Replies: 61
Views: 5254

Re: Thread for Gerald.

Hi Ilona. Thinking about “shoulds” and “shouldn’ts” has been challenging – seeming to get right to the heart of how “I” could be in charge. Shoulds and shouldn'ts are judgements over what is happening now. For a day, catch all shoulds and shouldn'ts. Notice when they come up, what they say, what are...
by GeraldF
Sat Mar 14, 2015 10:39 am
Forum: ARCHIVES
Topic: Thread for Gerald.
Replies: 61
Views: 5254

Re: Thread for Gerald.

Thank you, Ilona. I'll watch for shoulds today. I have a lot of them!

I'll report back tomorrow.

Warmly...
Gerald.
by GeraldF
Thu Mar 12, 2015 7:41 pm
Forum: ARCHIVES
Topic: Thread for Gerald.
Replies: 61
Views: 5254

Re: Thread for Gerald.

Hello again, Ilona. Let's look at distraction. Is this something in the way of life flow or its part of it? What I label as “distraction” is just a temporary focus of attention – absorption in whatever is present. By calling it a “distraction”, it is being judged as wrong or inappropriate. By implic...
by GeraldF
Thu Mar 12, 2015 10:05 am
Forum: ARCHIVES
Topic: Thread for Gerald.
Replies: 61
Views: 5254

Re: Thread for Gerald.

Hello Ilona. When conditions are right, goal is set, step after step is taken. Looking back you can see, this works. When I first read this message yesterday, I was overcome by the beauty of the realization. I felt tears come to my eyes, thinking: “Achieving my goals didn’t need to feel so hard. It’...
by GeraldF
Wed Mar 11, 2015 6:12 pm
Forum: ARCHIVES
Topic: Thread for Gerald.
Replies: 61
Views: 5254

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Good day, Ilona. I’ve been pondering… So attention is not something that belongs to the character. Attention goes to thoughts about the character. That does not make it "attention of the character". Can you see what I'm saying? Thank you for pointing this out. I can see that I was letting “attention...
by GeraldF
Tue Mar 10, 2015 9:16 pm
Forum: ARCHIVES
Topic: Thread for Gerald.
Replies: 61
Views: 5254

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Hello there, Ilona. I saw your post first thing this morning and I hadn't replied yet, so there was no problem for me. I spent a good part of today answering the questions below – thinking and struggling. Then I went for a walk and listened to a recording of one of your Worthing meetings. Now I’m fe...
by GeraldF
Mon Mar 09, 2015 9:40 am
Forum: ARCHIVES
Topic: Thread for Gerald.
Replies: 61
Views: 5254

Re: Thread for Gerald.

Hi Ilona. Yes, I’ve been continuing with the text. It’s really a great summary of wisdom. As for your second post, how is it for you? Can you divide experiences and perceive one experience or more than one at a time? It does not matter one bit, what material says, it only matters what you see in you...
by GeraldF
Sat Mar 07, 2015 11:28 pm
Forum: ARCHIVES
Topic: Thread for Gerald.
Replies: 61
Views: 5254

Re: Thread for Gerald.

Hi again, Ilona. I want to clarify something else with you. In LU material, I've often come across the point that one only experiences one thought at a time. Would that also imply that one experiences only one sense perception at a time? I was just lying down, noticing the flow of sensations that ca...
by GeraldF
Sat Mar 07, 2015 10:23 pm
Forum: ARCHIVES
Topic: Thread for Gerald.
Replies: 61
Views: 5254

Re: Thread for Gerald.

Thank you for this sutra, Ilona. There are so many pointers here. I understand what it’s saying, and I’m trying not to intellectualize it, but to actually follow the pointing in practical terms. It’s helpful to see that cognizing/thinking is considered equal to the seen and the heard. “I” tend to gi...
by GeraldF
Fri Mar 06, 2015 7:06 pm
Forum: ARCHIVES
Topic: Thread for Gerald.
Replies: 61
Views: 5254

Re: Thread for Gerald.

Hello again, Ilona. I’m pursuing these questions about conditioning. “What is conditioning in actual experience? And more importantly, what is that gets conditioned? How about your body, does it carry conditioning around with it?” I suppose memory is part of conditioning and that must be carried aro...
by GeraldF
Fri Mar 06, 2015 1:19 pm
Forum: ARCHIVES
Topic: Thread for Gerald.
Replies: 61
Views: 5254

Re: Thread for Gerald.

Good day, Ilona. Thank you for pushing me to get my own clarity on these points. These discussions have often confused me when I’ve read them in non-duality books, and trying to figure them out often becomes a distracting puzzle that just generates more seeking. So I hope to sort them out and let th...

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