By "externalizing" I mean assuming the existence of an "objective" world "out there". Can you find that, in direct experience?

And, thank you! Talk later.

Hi Adam,

I'll be traveling the next week without internet, and I can't answer right now, but I'll ask Bill to take over for some days. Only so much:

From my experience family life gets better if you don't "externalize" them.

With "them" I meant the family members.

Talk to you in a week or so!

Dearest Adam, it is good that you start to question the words of the sages. Some texts are useful at some stages for some people, but it is infinitely more valuable to look yourself, (and maybe compare notes), instead of assuming that they must know, because they are famous. The same applies here. D...

Each and every "now", there is no pattern of thoughts. Though, there can be conditioning. How many "nows" are there? And how can there be conditioning if there is no pattern of thoughts? I don't quite understand what you say in the two last paragraphs. Would you try to answer again: What evidence d...

It feels like discussing psychology is butting heads with what is being looked at here What we are looking at here is butting heads with about everything. Actually, it is pulling the rug from under the world as you know it. Life, death, everything. The main focus on this forum is to look at the ill...

If I try to find the nest of thoughts, there is no nest. There are automatic patterns that are noticed and attached to the idea of a nest of thoughts that Adam thinks I am following up on this, because there is still a subtle idea of a container of sorts, which is now replacing the idea of "self". ...

Good looking :) Even "warm tingly sensation" is a thought but feels less processed yes –  is just another thought, replacing the one before ("my left thigh hurts") which was replacing the one before, which was replacing the one before etc. Some are "positive", some are "negative", some are "less pro...

I go in and out with the looking. When I think I'm looking I'm actually thinking and when I'm actually looking there is almost entirely no thinking at all. That's ok. The goal is not to remain in a state of "looking" or "no thinking", but in order to find out how the whole mechanism works – how com...

I'd say you are mostly still not in "looking"-mode, (or, in this exercise, it would be "feeling"): Without referring to memory there is a sensation of the edge of the skin in contact with environment that meets it Go further into this sensation. Can you really feel "the edge of the skin"? Can you fe...

Thank you for your thoughtful answer! It is important to be precise, because the illusion "likes" to hide in unclear places like "seems to" and "I guess..". If you should notice these words, look again! I would advise you to completely stop reading other threads, or related literature for now, and i...

Adam, don't worry about delay. Try look for self in short moments while you are busy with other things, and especially when you are stressed and busy with real life stuff. Not in order to get it better, just out of curiosity. And not from a position of "I already know there is no self" – because you...

Sometimes I dropped out of sensation as a participant in these moments and it feels like I was never here. What about the times when it feels like you ARE here? What is going on then? It sounds to me like you are trying to reach a special state of no-self. Like you write here: I have felt more rela...

The space that receives them is what is there before they happen. There is a background awareness that exists before those temporary moments of experience occur. "A space that receives sensations and thoughts" sounds spiritual, and kind of like an imaginary container! Is ithis something you have re...

Threw sense feels like a body sensation that can be felt in different areas of the body or even the entire body sometimes. Sometimes the sense is behind the eyes. Ok. There are body sensations. Usually the sense is stronger after thoughts come up. Thoughts can appear without that sense present. = t...

Threw sense feels like a body sensation

Could you explain this, before I answer. I don't understand